Ask the Mouthy Housewives: Should I Breastfeed My Neighbor's Baby?

Well, this is a peculiar request: What do you do when your neighbor asks you if you'll breastfeed her child?

Ask the Mouthy Housewives: Should I Breastfeed My Neighbor’s Baby?

Well, this is a peculiar request: What do you do when your neighbor asks you if you’ll breastfeed her child?

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Dear Mouthy Housewives,

I have a 4 year-old daughter and a 2 year-old son. I am a big proponent of breastfeeding. Both of my children are still nurslings and I have no shame or regrets about this decision.

I have recently started caring for my neighbor’s 4 month-old son three days a week. My neighbor is unable to nurse her son due to problems with her milk production, so he’s a formula-fed baby. My neighbor knows I am a huge supporter of breastfeeding (when it’s possible) and she recently caught me off guard with a rather peculiar request. She asked how I would feel about nursing her son during the time he is in my care, and if possible, providing her with pumped milk to supplement his feedings at home. (She even mentioned something about offering to pay me for this service.)

On the one hand, I feel somewhat uncomfortable with the idea of nursing another woman’s child. Having said that, I feel bad for her, as I know she would love to give her son the nutritional benefits of her own breast milk , but isn’t able. I know there are plenty of women out there in the world who nurse babies that are not their own. I’m just wondering if it’s the right thing for me to do. I worry that nursing my neighbor’s baby might take away from those special nursing moments with my own children.

Should I give her idea a try, or just say no?


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Dear Boobs Possibly for Rent,

I was just manning the table at my breast milk stand (75 cents a cup by the way) but traffic was slow. I thought it would be a real niche market but I don’t know. Next time I’m going with the lemonade stand. Anywho (gosh, I hate that expression), let’s solve your predicament.

I personally would never breastfeed another woman’s baby. I would feel like I was cheating on my own babies. Well, let me amend that. If I was stuck in an elevator for hours with a crying infant who had no food, I would nurse that baby. But I’m not breastfeeding anyone else in the elevator. I don’t care how hungry they are. They can grab a Snickers bar when someone gets us out of that hot box.

Even if you decide you are comfortable nursing this person’s baby, it brings up a lot of thorny issues. What if you want to drink a glass of wine each night? Or drink coffee? Or eat tuna or other fish containing high levels of mercury? Or take allergy medication? Any of these things could bother the other mom since a small amount could end up in your breast milk and in her baby. And she should absolutely insist you get a medical screening and a blood test to make sure you don’t pass on any viruses through your breast milk.

As for selling the milk, there are no federal laws regarding the sale and distribution of breast milk. However, certain regulations do occur from state to state so you would need to check your particular state.

I don’t think this is something you “just give a try.” If you are both really considering this, you need to sit down, have a serious discussion and come up with the ground rules. And if you ultimately decide it’s not for you, don’t feel guilty. I know a lot kids who were formula fed and they are just as whiny and nuts as the breastfed ones!

Good luck to you,

Kelcey, TMH

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0 thoughts on “Ask the Mouthy Housewives: Should I Breastfeed My Neighbor's Baby?

  1. If you can pump milk and give her breast milk in a bottle then yes. As for letting the baby physically nurse from you, if it were me I would feel oogy about letting another mom’s kid latch onto me, although back in the horse and buggy day there were women who were known as wet nurses and that’s what they would do-nurse the babies of mothers who couldn’t produce milk.

  2. Breast feeding from mom to her baby has a long list of benefits as I’m sure all of you know already.
    Still feeding the four year old could be spliting the benefits for the youngest.I know its a bonding issue also but the four year old needs to be bonding with your two year old in a nurturing way not a sharing breast way.
    I would hope that a medication ,wine ,smoking, ussue does not even exist for your own children or even yourself.
    Best friend or not,sometimes they come and go through the years. If your friends child in 5-10-15 years comes up in a unfortunate medical situation you could be wide open for a libiality issue.It’ a strange ever changing world.
    start a small cookie jar fund and help her with post-natal nutreant session at a city or county agency for those issues, or a legal fun for your future. Good luck may health be with all of you

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