Baby Daddy Question
Dear Lissa: I am five months pregnant. The first day of my last menstrual period was March 15. I’ve always been regular with my period and it usually starts on the 15th of each month. I had intercourse with a guy on the night of March 25. He pulled out when he ejaculated. On March 31, I had intercourse with a different guy who did not pull out. I am confused as to which guy I should lean more toward as far as getting help with the baby. Please help me out!
Dear Baby’s Mama: Not knowing who fathered your baby can be very confusing. Paternity testing, via amniocentesis now or testing the baby’s blood after birth, can confirm who the father is, but short of that, how can you know? Well, if your period always starts on the 15th, you have thirty-day cycles. The luteal (second) phase of the menstrual cycle is, for the most part, a predictable 14 days, while the follicular (first) phase may vary. Ovulation separates the follicular phase from the luteal phase. So that means, most likely, you ovulated 14 days before when you would have expected your next period – which would be April 1. Eggs and sperm both last about 48 hours, which means you most likely conceived April 1, plus or minus two days. So chances are that you conceived with the second guy, who did not pull out.
It’s a close call, so I can’t say for sure that it wasn’t the first guy. There’s no way to predict exactly which day you ovulated. But if I had to guess, I’d pick bachelor #2. Good luck, sweetie. Hope that helps.