"Being Around You Is Enough to Drive a Man to Suicide"

How to handle haters in your love life.
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“Being Around You Is Enough to Drive a Man to Suicide”

How to handle haters in your love life.

-Carrie Seim

Taking Criticism

Last week I received a fan letter from a reader named Sarah in Houston! She had the urge to track me down after reading my 8 Types of Men We’re Boycotting column. I hate to brag, but Sarah was certainly moved by what I wrote:

“Thank you, Carrie Seim, for adding one more pile of sh** to the already clogged plumbing system that is the world of women’s magazines…Judging from your article, just being around you and your negative personality is enough to drive a man to suicide.”

I have arrived.

Sarah’s email continued for ten enthusiastic paragraphs, spotlighting each of the eight points in my column and helpfully pointing out why no one will ever, ever date me. (Sarah says it has something to do with “every piece of word diarrhea that falls out of your talk-hole.”) 

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It was awesome advice and I passed it on to the man in my life so he could dump me immediately. I also made an appointment with my doctor so he could prescribe word diarrhea meds for my talk-hole.

Then I let out a big exhale because, according to Sarah, men are finally willing to lay down their lives on my behalf! How rockstar is that?! (Oh, and I was totally afraid people would think my article was “funny,” but Sarah got that I was 100% Serious Town.)

Yes, I’m now able to laugh hard at her hatorade. But if I had received a letter like this earlier in my life (and believe me, when I was writing for The Tyra Banks Show, I received plenty of creative hate mail, frequently referring to my petite figure as “Skeletor”), it would have destroyed me. Criticism – especially about your personal life or appearance, is hard to take, even when it’s your job to put your life on display.


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0 thoughts on “"Being Around You Is Enough to Drive a Man to Suicide"

  1. Candice says:

    Carrie – I love that you wrote this article! You can’t get through life without a sense of humor!

  2. Ann13 says:

    Wow. Sarah needs to lighten up!

    PS: Nothing wrong with boxed wine :)

  3. lovesbetty says:

    These are good tips. It’s not cute to let the bad energy in but sometimes its hard to ignore.

  4. Fashionista says:

    Wow, it must have taken a lot of time out of her life to write that letter… that’s sad.

  5. girleegirl says:

    She sounds like she’s obsessed with you.

  6. uptowngirl says:

    Wow, what a mean person. I’m so glad you have a great sense of humor about all this!

  7. alykat731 says:

    One thing I’ve learned in life – you’re not going to please all people all the time. And, as someone with a great amount of exposure, your odds of negative feedback go way up. Anyone who doesn’t like the content of your articles so much that they would spend a great amount of time responding critically should simply UNSUBSCRIBE…unless of course she’s looking for a little exposure of her own. Remember the saying – there’s no such thing as bad publicity, LOL, so maybe that’s her agenda. Post the facebook link to her letter so we can read her longwinded diatribe for ourselves. And – there’s another expression I love to remind myself of when I know someone is talking sh*t — “You’re no one unless you’re being talked about!” :-D

  8. nycblonde says:

    Hilarious! You’re a great writer WITH a sense of humor. Sadly, 50% of the population doesn’t have a sense of humor. Poo on them!

  9. hope_xo says:

    I can’t get over this. If you don’t like something/someone/etc, don’t read it. Seems like she put in way too much effort for something that could have easily been ignored.

  10. pogmathoin says:

    I can’t believe the things that people are willing to say to/about others. I spend a lot of time teaching the Golden Rule to the kids, but with all the haters out there I am facing an uphill battle.

  11. weetziebat says:

    sarah sounds like a class-a jerk.

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