Do You Feel Sorry for Jesse James?

Sandra Bullock's soon-to-be ex-husband gives an honest and open interview on Nightline, which sheds new light on his infidelity.

Do You Feel Sorry for Jesse James?

Sandra Bullock’s soon-to-be ex-husband gives an honest and open interview on Nightline, which sheds new light on his infidelity.

-Faye Brennan

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Teary-eyed and seemingly honest, Jesse James gave a revealing interview last night on Nightline, where he addressed his infidelity with Sandra Bullock, his stint in rehab, and the rumors that he has an obsession with Nazis. It was the most we’ve heard out of “the most hated man in America,” since reports first surfaced that he had cheated on Bullock with Michelle “Bombshell” McGee.

Now, we here at Betty have been the first to condemn Jesse on his mistakes (how do you cheat on America’s Sweetheart with that trash?), and Mean Betty has certainly made it clear what she thinks about the Monster Garage star. But we have to admit, after seeing this interview, we feel sorry for him.

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Jesse reveals in the interview that he is a victim of child abuse, something that he struggled to come to terms with while spending 30 days in rehab. He said his father used to beat him, call him names, and at one point, even broke his arm. The tough image the 41-year-old has projected since then has just been a front to hide his haunted past. “Bike builder, ‘Monster Garage’ TV star, all that stuff is a huge smokescreen so that people won’t see that I’m a scared, abused kid, a seven-year-old,” Jesse says.

 Jesse claims it was the loss of self-worth due to the abuse that caused him to cheat.  “Why would I totally destroy my wife’s life and humiliate her when I knew it was bad?” he says. “I may seem like a monster in peoples’ eyes, but I’m not that kind of person where I will willfully, you know, ‘I’m gonna get her, I’ll show her,’ that’s not what it’s about. It’s about trying to push someone away that I thought was going to leave anyway.”

 It’s obvious that Jesse has some deep-rooted problems, some that we didn’t see coming. We’ve all been so quick to peg him as the classic, ego-tripping cheater – the poster boy for all the uncaring men out there who cheat on their wives on a daily basis. However, if what Jesse is saying is really true, if he really does have all of these leftover psychological problems due to an unhappy childhood, then maybe we should cut him some slack. We don’t know the full story, much like most of the scandals that come out of Hollywood.

If Jesse’s tears last night were genuine, then it seems like he has enough personal guilt and remorse to deal with. He admits he’s painfully aware of the damage he’s caused in his life, his children’s lives, and Sandra’s. And for that, we do feel sorry for him. So, maybe we should all just leave him alone. (ABC News)

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  1. You know what? I kind of do! We are all so quick to judge and throw stones. And from what he says, Sandra Bullock just seems as always like such a great person. I hope she can have time to heal and move on with her life. And Jesse too.

  2. So what, he’s had a tough life. Lots of other people have, too, and they don’t dress up as Nazis or spend time with people who embrace white supremacy.

  3. This is a highly-orchestrated, PR-planned act. You got to hand it to his publicists – they know what they’re doing. “Yeah, let’s have him do an ‘exclusive’ interview, and we gotta make sure he cries. Really sell it.”

  4. I feel sorry for him, but there is a difference between forgiveness/compassion and allowing a person who has betrayed you back into your life before either of you are truly healed. Forgiveness doesn’t mean subjecting yourself to more pain to please someone else, it can and often should mean a parting of ways. He will learn to heal himself by realizing he lost the greatest thing in his life due to his own self-hatred. Truly, I feel sorry for both he and Sandra. I feel sorry for anyone who orchestrates their own downfall and those who are blindsided by the fallout.

  5. I do feel compassion for him, but that’s different than feeling sorry for him. No matter what happens in our youth, we can’t always blame our actions on that. It sounds to me that feel messed things up because somewhere deep inside he felt that he didn’t deserve her. I do understand that aspect of things. I had a lot of bad relationships before I met my now husband. When we first started dating and living together I was such a head case. I would start fights out of the blue because I was so used to the drama. Thankfully I stopped my crap and realized he wasn’t going to bad things to me. Now, we are going on our 14th wedding anniversary. It’s too bad Jessie could not get passed his “ghosts” before he got married. Things might have been different. I hope he learns and grows from this.

  6. I’m with Kitty (#1) and I do believe him. Everyone is so judgemental.
    Early trauma and abuse DOES affect you, and sometimes for the rest of your life. Resiliency is different in everyone. And neuroscience is proving that early trauma actually CHANGES brain development. I hope that this whole mess is what Jesse needed to heal himself & become a happier person. It sucks that Sandra had to suffer because of it, but I believe she will be OK, everything happens for a reason….

  7. I don’t feel sorry for him at all. We all have some kind of past, but it’s an excuse (not a reason) for bad behavior. Remember that Jesse didn’t just make ONE mistake. How many mistresses did he have? He made the decision to sleep with all of them and he can’t blame anyone else for that.

  8. You know what I do feel sorry for both of them, Something is wrong when yo have a very good life, I was about to say a good woman also, But we dont know Sandra personaly, we just know she makes good movies an she is pretty. Wev’e got a little of his story, we might need to hear from her too. However most men dont think about getting caught, Men think with their penis instead of there head. And bye the way women are big cheaters I have seen it first hand.

  9. Yes I do kinda have compassion for the man. However I find it kind of ironic that a 30 DAY stint in sex rehab has shown him the error of his ways and he NOW realizes (after he has been caught) that he was cheating on her with some scummy ho because he was abused as a child and was pushing his wife away b4 she left him. Yeah!!! O.k.

  10. I do feel compassion for him. I also believe that too many of us spend time judging others and not taking care of our own personal affairs. It is truly not fans business to add their two-cents into the lives of Sandra and Jessie. Everyone of us has issues but they are not lived out in the lime light, public eye, and the media.
    I give Jessie credit for dealing with his issue and the courage to say it on national TV, even though it is not our business. I hope that Sandra will be allowed to heal in a private way.

  11. I don’t feel sorry for him. Everyone has baggage -whether it be from their childhood or past relationships, or both. But there comes a time when we all have to decide that we want more for ourselves than what our history has dictated and we work on going beyond our life history- so Jesse James is no different than all of us. This abuse story he’s dishing out is more appealing than, “I screwed up. I made a mistake.”

    Don’t fall for the hype folks – fashionista said it best, ” This is a highly-orchestrated, PR-planned act.” He’s a man that made a terrible mistake and consequently ruined his marriage-nothing more, nothing less. Signed, @blisswriter

  12. I do not fee sorry for him. If it was one women then it was too many. He id not value his wedding vows and I an sickered by this. I told my EX after years of abuse that this was one thing I would not tolerate. After 15 + years I filed for divorce. Met awonderful man and was married to him until he passed away. Weould still be married tothis day. He felt the same way I did about cheating. If you really love someone, you will not cheat.

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