Unlike the male sex organs, which are viewable outside the body, the female organs are basically hidden. Men do not need to search for their areas of pleasure, but, due to anatomical differences, women do. Many don’t search because of embarrassment and shame brought about through old societal views concerning women and sexuality. Masturbation was denounced as a sin and a perversion, by religion, the medical establishment, society, and family as short a time ago as the nineteen fifties. This denouncement was mostly aimed towards women. The male animal was considered to be unable to control his need for sexual satisfaction, and while masturbation was spoken of sinful for him also, it was not stressed as strongly as it was for females.
Add to this the “expert” teaching of doctors and clergy that “women do not crave sex as a man does” and the message that only “women of ill repute” actually liked sex, and a sexually curious woman didn’t stand a chance.
There are many books on the market that can enlighten women about their bodies. I suggest the book by Dr. Laura Berman, since it is written in a straight-forward manner that helps women help themselves; literally. I would suggest that you read any book first and then give it to your guy to read. Discuss it together.
Our bodies are a work of perfection but unfortunately, they don’t come with an owner’s manual. Learn the correct terminology for your sexual parts and where they are located. And please show your partner!
Words like clitoris, vulva, vagina, and labia need not be a reason for embarrassment any more than penis, testicles, or scrotum. These are parts of our bodies and wonderful parts they are! How to use them for pleasure is your right.
Healthy sexuality equals a healthy body and mind.
Kristen Houghton is a Lifestyle writer and the author of the best-selling book, And Then I’ll Be Happy! Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness and Put Your Own Life First. She is a Lifestyle writer for The Huffington Post and twodaymag.com.