Do You Know the Difference Between Caring and Caretaking?
Do you tell yourself you’re being caring when you’re actually fixing? Discover the big difference!
Caring = giving to another from love, for the joy of it – as a free gift.
Caretaking = giving to get love, giving with an agenda attached, giving yourself up.
If you tune in to how you feel when someone is truly caring about you or trying to fix you, you will begin to understand the vast difference in the energy.
While the actions of caring and caretaking might look the same, because the intention is totally different, the energy is also completely different.
Sandy is a caretaker. She is constantly doing things for others – sometimes because they ask her to and other times because she believes that is what they want and expect. The problem is that Sandy often abandons herself to give to others, and then expects others to give back to her and fill the emptiness within her caused by her self-abandonment. She ignores her own feelings and uses giving to others as an addiction to avoid responsibility for herself. She uses her caretaking as a form of control to try to get others to like and value her, rather than learning to like and value herself.
While others may like what Sandy gives to them, they rarely give back to her in the way she hopes for, so Sandy generally ends up feeling invisible, unappreciated, disappointed and drained, and often angry as well.
Sometimes the energy of Sandy’s giving often doesn’t feel good to others, as they feel pulled on and obligated to give back.
Monica, on the other hand, has learned through her Inner Bonding process to connect with her personal source of spiritual Guidance, which enables her to define her own worth so that she isn’t needy of others’ attention and approval. She knows how to fill herself with love and to take 100% responsibility for her own feelings. Before giving to others, she checks in with herself to see if this is something she really wants to do, so when she gives, it is for the joy of it. Her caring is a free gift — there are no strings attached, no agendas. She has no expectations about how the other person ‘should’ respond.
The energy of Monica’s giving feels wonderful — a breath of fresh air that warms the heart and fills the soul.
While Sandy and Monica may do exactly the same thing — for example cook a lovely meal for their partner — the energy of it is totally different because the intent is totally different.
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