Guys Answer: Why Did They Get Married?

It's a simple question, but you'll be surprised with what some men had to say.
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Guys Answer: Why Did They Get Married?

It’s a simple question, but you’ll be surprised with what some men had to say.

-Justin DeMarco

Guys Answer: Why Did You Get Married

My first marriage lasted less than five minutes.

I was seven-years old and married the girl next door in a very elaborate ceremony in her parent’s basement. I wore a custom-fitted construction paper tuxedo designed and taped to my body by my sister and my soon-to-be sister-in-law. My bride wore a toilet paper dress. Our sisters presided over the ceremony, and eventually announced us husband and mummified-wife.

While my childhood wedding may have been rather silly and unsuccessful, it goes to show you how important the institution of marriage is in our society (at least in theory), even at a young age.

When I was growing up, I remember hearing lots of talk about “The One” – you know, that perfect person who you are meant to marry. “The One” you are going to grow old with and will love and cherish for the rest of your life and live happily ever after in a fairytale world.

For some guys, that’s actually the way it works.

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“I never thought I was the marrying kind,” Rob, 29, a service technician in South Carolina, says. “Then I met Laura, and we fell in love, and I had all these previous experiences which helped clarify things. I think if I’m being really honest with myself, I was thinking in the first month or so of meeting Laura that she was ‘the one.’ She’s pretty much admitted the same thing, but it was months before we said, ‘I love you,’ and I waited 3 weeks to even kiss her, because I knew that this would be the last woman I would ever court, and so there was no rush.”

Zach, a 27-year-old New York City teacher, knew he was going to marry his wife after living with her for a year and a half before proposing. “I had met someone that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with,” he says. “She would be a good partner for whatever life threw at me and she loved me for who I am, flaws and all.”

For men who have found the woman they want to marry, popping the question isn’t where the decision-making ends – there’s also the whole issue of timing.

“I’m a bit practical, so I knew the right time was when I could afford a ring!” Landon, a 29 year-old attorney from Michigan, says. “This was a decision that had been made long before, we just needed to be in a position, financially, to actually get married.”

My own dad, now 56, proposed to my mom when he was 27 in order to start a new chapter in his life. He had achieved financial security and was ready for the next step.

“I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her,” he says. “Our values were the same and we had similar life plans. I felt like I wanted to start a family, so I asked permission from her father because it was tradition at that time.”


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0 thoughts on “Guys Answer: Why Did They Get Married?

  1. girleegirl says:

    I’m going to have to agree with Landon. I’ll marry my guy when he can afford my princess cut rock.

  2. uptowngirl says:

    What a sweet story!

  3. CityLady212 says:

    Some of these are so adorable! I’m happy there are men out there that are so sentimental.

  4. danggirl says:

    Cute! But there’s one thing missing here … all the guys who caved in to ultimatums. How’s that for a fairy tale?

  5. Fashionista says:

    I agree @citylady212… it gives me hope! I still want the fairytale… I don’t care about admitting that.

  6. FBNYC says:

    I can’t believe Rob and his girlfriend decided to get married in the middle of sex. You’re not thinking straight then!!!

  7. lovesbetty says:

    I once had a guy tell me for the first time that he loved me during sex! I was ANGRY.

  8. Fern says:

    I loved the story of the author’s father — so endearing.

  9. cremebrulee67 says:

    My first husband never asked, he just assumed and handed me the ring while driving down the road; This time, my second husband totally surprised me — we were on the coast in California and i was sitting on a piece of driftwood. He got down on one knee and proposed and already had the ring and everything. It was so beautiful and absolutely unforgettable

  10. cremebrulee67 says:

    Oh, and we had already been living together so he just wanted to make it official. he could not have picked a better way to do it. It was better than I could have imagined.

  11. pepsilove says:

    good article.

  12. Lokifan says:

    My dad asked my mum on a bridge in Amsterdam. Way more romantic than her first husband.

  13. job says:

    lovesbetty: Why get angry? My husband told me he loved me during sex and I did not respond because I wasn’t sure that’s what he had said, so he said it again, so lovingly. Yes, I did respond that time with a lot of love back to him too.
    He also asked me to marry him while in bed and it was a beautiful proposal.
    We also went and bought the rings together.
    It’s what you make of the moment. Loads of love in this relationship and we’re creating memories everyday.

  14. Saraht72 says:

    Umm…. I’m not moving in with anybody before I am married. Most responsible guys do tend to put marriage off until they have achieved financial security.

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