Haven’t We Learned Our Lesson? Stop Picking on Gavin Rossdale for His Gay Fling
Gavin Rossdale had a short fling with Marilyn, a cross-dressing singer, when he was 17-years old. Now, it’s making headlines? Get over it!
Following the recent devastating gay suicides, it seems like the whole country has adopted a newfound anti-bullying attitude, and mean celeb bloggers like Perez Hilton have vowed to stop picking on celebs. Yet, one of the biggest stories making headlines this week is how Gavin Rossdale, Gwen Stefani’s husband, has admitted to Details that he had a gay fling with cross-dressing singer Marilyn, aka Peter Robinson, back when he was 17.
Of course, the interview wasn’t supposed to be about that. It was supposed to be about Gavin’s band, Bush, making a comeback. And yet, that news is being overshadowed by Gavin’s teenage experiments.
Gavin handles the topic in a very mature, civilized way when the interviewer brings it up. He admits to denying the relationship in the past, but only because he was just starting to become famous. He says “it felt like a cheap shot” when Boy George wrote about it in his 1995 book, Take It Like a Man.
Wouldn’t you feel uncomfortable if someone called out your love life in a book?
Now, Gavin feels comfortable admitting to to the affair, but reasons, “It’s just one of those things: Move on. When you’re 17, Jesus Christ. I don’t think there’s anything strange about any form of–you’re learning about life. It’s a part of growing up. That’s it. No more, no less.”
Exactly. I’m sure many teenagers out there are applauding Gavin for this statement, because it isn’t a big deal. So move on, media outlets. Move on, bullies. Gavin experimented, and determined he liked women better. Now, he has an awesome wife and two beautiful little boys. Don’t harp on what he did years and years ago, making it out to be something much bigger than it really is. Because, when you do, you’re inadvertently suggesting that there’s something wrong or “newsworthy” about Gavin’s gay relationship, which fuels the fire for teen bullying.
There was nothing wrong about what Gavin did, and had he realized he was gay after his experimentation, there would be nothing wrong with that, either.
But, the fact that this part of the interview is what is being sensationalized proves that we have a long way to go before we can put an end to bullying. If news outlets and gossip blogs think it’s strange, then young people will think it’s strange, and bullying will never stop. Can’t you see how one influences the other?
Faye Brennan is assistant editor at BettyConfidential.