At the Movies
He’s Just Not That Into You
But will you be into this movie? Betty’s reviewer checks in…
-Cynthia Parsons McDaniel
Sex and the City first uttered the line “He’s just not that into you;” soon after came the same-titled best-seller by writers from the show, and now comes the movie, in theaters this Friday. “This is the first feature film that was inspired by one line of dialogue from one episode of a TV show,” said director Ken Kwapis (who also directed Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants and The Office).
Produced by Drew Barrymore‘s Flower Films and featuring comedic ensemble performances by Barrymore, Scarlett Johansson, Ben Affleck, Jennifer Connelly, Ginnifer Goodwin (Big Love), Bradley Cooper, Justin Long and Kevin Connelly (Entourage), the movie exposes the ups and downs of dating and even committed relationships, from the unreturned phone call to the not-happening-this-lifetime second date to the sex life gone cold.
Set in Baltimore, the movie follows various 20- and 30-something couples and singles who are navigating their various relationships. The movie’s mission appears to be to hit audiences over the head with the realization that you really shouldn’t want to be with someone who’s not really really into you – and that there is someone out there who will think that you are absolutely fabulous.
The women characters spend a lot of time overanalyzing their relationships, subjecting themselves to more than they need to in order to find the right match. There is the simple conversation with a man that lasts mere minutes but the woman obsesses about it for four or five hours afterward. The three main female characters work in the same office, spending more time figuring out what is happening in each of their personal lives than they do accomplishing any type of real work. They are simply too busy mulling over cryptic phone messages and delayed responses to focus on the more practical aspects of life.
Barrymore’s character laments how now men and women meet over the internet more often than not: “People don’t meet organically anymore. If I want to make myself more attractive to the opposite sex, I don’t go get a new haircut – I update my profile. That’s just how it is.” Sad but true. Text messaging, voice mail – you can actually have an entire relationship in today’s wired world without ever actually meeting in person. For Drew’s character, connecting by phone is a major task that almost seems primitive.
Director Kwapis contends that although title may telegraph “chick flick,” “There are just as many men who pine after and are rebuffed by women as there are women who are rebuffed buy men. The men in the movie are as equally as confused as the women and make just as many mistakes. It’s wonderfully even-handed that way.”
This is, in short, not your typical romantic comedy. With all the characters dealing with different aspects of love, there are a lot of romantic “lessons” but the film is still a fun ride all the way. The bottom-line message, as you might suspect from the title: If a guy acts like he doesn’t care, wake up-he doesn’t. Time to move on…