Now my pretties, I’m not being bitter, just realistic. We all want the right partner, job, home, children, pets, dream vacations, plus wrinkle-free skin and the body we had in high school, more or less. So even if you didn’t bloom until after high school this still applies to you!
Growing up all I had to do is look at my mother and think, “I’m going to do the opposite so my life will turn out better!” Speaking with women, I hear this constantly. Even though I had this thought, so many things have not turned out the way I planned. Why? Planning for a rainy day? I didn’t. Many times when the storm came, my umbrella broke under the pressure. The man I thought I’d spend an eternity with left me high and dry. Jobs I loved sometimes went away with the economy. I’m not saying that you won’t have a magical life, I’m saying plan just in case. I wish I had.
If you’re only 20, why should you care? I’ll quote Tracey: “When I was 30 I was convinced that I wouldn’t make it to 40 much less 50! If you are waiting for the other shoe to drop, you tend to keep an extra pair in your bag. If the shoe doesn’t drop, good for you. If it does your life won’t fall apart. You’ll learn your life lessons, transition, and survive”.
Areas to plan? Tracey’s book is a great road map.
*Finances: Make sure you have co-control over finances and save for yourself. Add the same amount to your kitty that you do to your kids’ college fund.
*Watch your health. Eat healthier and start exercising today. Your health is the most important. Wear sunblock starting today. Protect your skin from photo aging and melanoma.
*Love your kids, but keep your life active with stuff that feeds you intellectually and emotionally. Love them and know one day they will move out and there you’ll be.
*If you’re self medicating with alcohol or food seek help!
*If you’re a joboholic, try to find some balance to keep your sanity.
*Keep a best girlfriend or two. These girls will always be there when things fall apart! We truly need each other.
*Find out what spiritual philosophies you like. There are many paths to the top of the mountain, just be sure to choose one! It will feed your soul.
Eventually we all have to deal with hormone replacement therapy and all the wonderful little things that come with age. Our parents will eventually need our help as they get older. All of a sudden you may find yourself as your parents’ guardian. If you’re 20, start small and plan. If you’re one of my girls with a big birthday coming, read this book and start anew. The one thing I love most about women is that they are innately smart no matter what their age.
There you go, Cinderella! Hope you find Prince Charming and live in a castle. But if the castle goes into foreclosure and Prince Charming is MIA, I want you not only survive, but forge the wonderful path that is your destiny.
Bippity, Boppity, Boo!
Harvey Helms is a beauty culturist and writer, drawing on 30 years of experience in cosmetics, fashion and design. Harvey has held positions ranging from Global Director of Beauty for Revlon Cosmetics to Executive Director of Special Events for Donna Karan Beauty. Harvey currently lives and works in Silicon Valley, where he just finished writing his first book in a trilogy of three: an engaging tell-all on the fashion industry. Follow Harvey on Twitter at Twitter.com/HarveyHelms.