How Do You Deal With Overly Aggressive Men like The Situation?
On last night’s episode of the Jersey Shore, The Situation turned into a guy we all hate to encounter.
The Situation demonstrated some really odd and disturbing behavior on last night’s episode of Jersey Shore. There was a montage of him and the many times he’s been in the Miami clubs physically picking girls up off the ground, slapping their asses, pushing them up against the wall, and pulling them in every direction. Pauly D said he was being “way too aggressive,” and we agree.
At one point, he picked poor little Snooki up and hoisted her over his shoulder because he wanted to leave the club early. Her ass was out and everything. The next night, he even gave her a little smack in the face over the same thing.
Snooki blew her lid, yelling at The Situation, “Don’t touch me!” The other girls he was being aggressive with said things like, “Can you please put me down?” “Help me,” and “Stop.” You think The Situation would take a hint.
I see this happen all the time when I go out — guys throwing girls around the dance floor like they’re little rag dolls. In fact, it happened to me the other night when I was celebrating my birthday with a few friends. We were dancing, laughing and having a great time, and the next thing I know, I am being picked up and held upside down by a dude I had met five minutes before.
Sure, it was all in good fun, but why do guys feel the need to do that? Is it to prove a point, like “Look how strong I am!”? Or is it just that they get carried away, and the line between appropriate and inappropriate gets blurred in their minds?
Whatever the reason, it’s obvious that most girls don’t like it when it happens to them. I didn’t, Snooki didn’t, and all the girls The Situation was trying to take home didn’t either. It doesn’t matter if the guy is someone we just met or one of our best buds, usually, that kind of touching just makes us feel uncomfortable.
Why? Well, besides the fact that the guy has no qualms about making us flash the whole dance floor, as soon as we realize, “Whoa, he’s really strong,” we get protective… and a little bit scared. Who’s to say he’s not going to use that strength later to hurt us or push us in a cab we don’t want to go in? We may be saying “stop” or “put me down” out of embarrassment (really, who wants to be that girl), but it’s also to make it clear that that type of touching won’t fly with us. Ever.
So, to The Situation and the other aggressive guys out there: let’s stick to the good, clean fun and keep everyone’s feet on the ground, okay? You can take that aggressiveness out on your pillow when you go home alone.
Tell us: Has this happened to you before? What did you say to make the guy cut it out, and if he was your friend, did it put a damper on your relationship?
Faye Brennan is assistant editor at BettyConfidential.