Plus, if my date is cute and well mannered, it will look like I’ve got it made. My friends will have no idea that I’m really single and struggling through the unruly scene that is dating in New York, and they’ll be oblivious to the fact that I dropped the “Will you be my date to this wedding?” bomb on this poor guy after only a few weeks of knowing him.
If I’m being honest, that’s probably my biggest dilemma with having a wedding date. I’d feel bad if that was my main agenda for seeing someone. How selfish of me to get a guy to like me and then drag him to something he doesn’t want to go to with people he doesn’t know, just because I don’t want to sit alone and feel like a loser during the slow songs. It’d be different if I were seeing someone for a while – then I would be happy to invite him and wouldn’t feel guilty about it, because he’d be my plus one for everything. But, right now, I don’t have that type of guy (it’s awesome realizing this when I want to go to the movies… or a nice dinner…). I also don’t have the money to hire an escort, and devastatingly enough, my gay BFFs currently live too far away. The last resort would be to sucker someone into it, and that’s just not my style.
So, in the process of writing this article, I guess I’ve concluded I’m going solo to these two weddings this summer. It won’t be that big of a deal – I’ll just hold my head high, collect my own hor’dourves, catch up with the friends that I should’ve been keeping in touch with this whole time, and walk my own drunk ass back to my hotel room. I might feel a little awkward and vulnerable at times, but so what? In the words of the best wedding crashers of all time, “Rule number 76: no excuses. Play like a champion.”
Tell us: how important do you think it is to have a wedding date? What are the pros and cons in your opinion?
Faye Brennan is assistant editor at BettyConfidential.