‘How Our Open Marriage Works’
A couple with an open marriage tells us why it works for them.
With couples like Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher rumored to have open marriages, many of us wonder: how exactly does this structure work? BettyConfidential sat down with “Sandy” and “Jon,” a good looking, seemingly normal couple who live in Pasadena with no children – and who have an open marriage. We asked them all the questions about open marriage that you have all been wondering. Find out how this couple feels about their partner having feelings for someone else and where the sexual encounters go down.
“Sandy,” a seemingly conservative blonde, who wore pearls and a sweater to the interview, kicked off giving us the general guidelines of an open relationship. “The most important thing to remember is that there are no universal rules,” she says as she holds her husband’s hand. She continues to outline that each open marriage has a unique structure and each couple needs to decide for themselves what their individual needs and desires are within the relationship, and what boundaries they are comfortable with. A few things you need to think about before entering into an arrangement like this are:
1. Is the “open” part of your relationship going to consist of bringing third, fourth, partners etc. into your sexual relationship together, or are you wanting the freedom to have sexual partners separate from your main partner?
2. Are you comfortable with your partner having romantic feelings and dates with someone else, or is this purely a sexual thing?
3. Are you allowed to bring people home to your shared home? If so, do you have a separate bedroom? Is the new guest allowed to sleep over?
4. Are you allowed to continue to sleep with the person, or is it only allowed one time?
“Jon,” who wears a polo shirt and has slick brown hair continues, “Because this issue deals with emotions so complicated and sometimes taboo, there can be no set rules that can apply across the board to everyone.”
BettyConfidential: What are the rules to your open relationship?
S: We each have separate bedrooms in our house, and truthfully we do not have that many rules about it. Of course protection is mandatory, as is regular testing.
J: I don’t have any problems with whatever Sandy wants to do. It turns me on knowing that she is excited and happy, which just strengthens our own bond.
Do “Sandy” and “John” tell each other about their different partners? Read on…