These days, we also feel a huge need to keep up. When you see all of your friends change their relationship statuses from “In a relationship” and “Engaged” to “MARRIED,” you begin to feel like you’ve fallen behind, whether you have or not. Thanks to the ease of information sharing, it’s all too easy to fall into a comparison trap. You scroll down the highlights on someone else’s time line, wondering why you aren’t on the same page. When the urge to compare myself to someone online hits, I take this as a cue to step away from the internet, or better yet unplug immediately. Remember that people only share what they want to. There’s always something about their life that they would like to change. Even better, don’t spend too much time worrying about anyone else’s life but your own.
Using other people as an inspiration, or even challenging yourself to get where they are in life isn’t always a negative motivator, as long as you don’t start giving everything in your present day life the stink eye. When I go down the rabbit hole of looking at wedding boards on Pinterest, or start watching strangers wedding videos (seriously, you guys…) and getting teary eyed and begin having those “Why doesn’t he love me enough to propose?” irrational thoughts, I look back at that day and remember all the little things my boyfriend had done to show me he loved me very, very much. Like how he made himself comfortable on the couch inside Zara for two hours while I tried on dresses and didn’t complain once. That’s love, people.
This isn’t to say that you should forget about your hopes and goals, plans and dreams for the future. If your present day path isn’t the one that is going to take you where you want to be, then switch it up. Change directions. But if it is, as I believe mine is, enjoy the journey. Walk, or sprint at your own pace. Enjoy each step you make in the right direction, and notice the small things. Pretty soon, you’ll get to where you want to be.
I’ll see you there!
Liz is the social media manager for We Love Dates, a worldwide online dating site. She posts daily on the popular We Love Dates blog about love, online dating and relationships. Stay in touch on Twitter or Facebook!