How To Tame A Player
Dozens of women want him. Here’s how to keep him!
Somewhere in the back of their minds, most men like to think they’re a player – a good-looking, charming guy who can have any girl he wants, even if he’s not always willing to commit to her.
Unfortunately for them (and for us!) a lot of guys aren’t players. They’re just playboys, emotionally immature types who think they’re sophisticated because they’re dishonest about their lack of interest in a relationship.
The player, on the other hand, is interesting, charming and intelligent, with a genuine good-guy aura about him. He’s got an appealing group of friends, and though he might not look like a movie star, he’s a magnet that you can’t help but be pulled toward. The only problem is, a lot of other women are being pulled toward him as well!
Living in New York City, I see a lot of players around town, and it’s a mystery to me why girls persist in going after them. The chances are good that we’ll never make them monogamous, right?
Not necessarily. For the past three years, one of my closest friends (I’ll call her Olive), has been in a relationship with a guy who’s got game. I sat down with her recently over coffee to ask her how she landed him, and why she even tried, since she’s always been very serious about relationships.
From the first time she saw Robert, Olive said, she was drawn to him. “He had this undeniable swagger and from what I could tell, had interesting friends who always seemed happy to see him – and plenty of women were struck by him. We finally talked at a party one night. I found myself laughing almost the whole time; I was surprised at what a gentleman he was. Afterwards, I asked Jason, a mutual friend of ours, what he thought about Robert. Without even thinking he responded. ’Oh, that’s my man. He’s a really great guy and super talented!’ I was hooked. So I told Jason that if Robert asked about me, to give him my number.”