3. He knows how to handle conflict well.
On The Real Housewives of Atlanta, when Kenya starts talking to Walter about their relationship during a fishing trip, you can tell that Walter does not deal with conflict well—which might be why his last marriage did not end amicably. Look for this in your relationship. Marriage takes a lot of work, so if you can’t work through your together problems from the start, he’s not marriage material.
4. He doesn’t reject the idea of marrying you.
Do the friend test with him. Ask one of your friends to bring up the question, “Hey, when are you two tying the knot?” If he says, “No time soon!”… well, then, that’s the answer you needed. However, if he smiles, and says something along the lines of, “Oh… We’ll see…”, he most likely has it in mind, but doesn’t want to tell everyone when and how he’ll do it.
5. He doesn’t send mixed signals.
Yes, men can have mood swings. When the relationship is great, he could want to start picking out a ring with you. When he feels as though the relationship is going sour, he’ll start saying that he isn’t ready for marriage and doesn’t know when he’ll be ready. These mixed signals give you an important piece of information—he isn’t marriage material.
When you get married, you shouldn’t go back and forth about your future together. When you commit, you commit forever. If he can’t commit to you in the relationship through the good and the bad, why would you want to walk down the aisle with him? He may just decide after marrying you that he didn’t really want to and leave. That’s not what you want.
Don’t hang on to him if he isn’t planning on marrying you. Settle it once and for all. Ask him how he feels about marrying you, and ask him if and when he plans on proposing. If it doesn’t fit your timeline, then he’s not the one for you.
Marcelina Hardy is a freelance writer for Writing Services Online and a relationship coach for Relationship Repair Coach. With over seven years of experience, she can help you with articles for your website or relationship coaching for your relationship.