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I’m common to him
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: After six years together, it seems like I’m common to him. Last year for our anniversary, he didn’t pick me out anything. I went to the store and picked out my own gift. We didn’t do anything for my birthday until a month later. Valentine’s Day I cooked him a wonderful dinner, and he didn’t want to toast. Now this year we barely see each other, and when we do talk, they are short conversations. It has not always been this way. He has no time for me, and he doesn’t care to hear my feelings or talk about the future. Instead he gets mad and starts to fuss. Is he cheating on me or is he not ready to be married?
Steven: I don’t know but it doesn’t look good and it seems like he is losing or has lost interest. The key question to ask yourself is why are you putting up with this and what about this relationship makes you happy? Are you settling because you feel like this is what you’re worth? Have an open conversation, make requests of what you want and see what happens. Remember that one of the most precious commodities in our life is time, and every day you spend allowing the situation to continue is a day lost and a day that you might be able to find someone that would better suit your needs – if that is important to you. Ultimately, if you don’t take a stand for what you want nobody else will.