I’m In Love With Two Guys!
Ask Your Friend…Ask Your Shrink: A married woman is falling in love with another man.
-Libby Keatinge and Dr. Morris Halperin
Dear Libby and Dr. Halperin,
Hi – I have a really tough question. I am married to a guy that I love to death and been married for almost 5 years now, but I started talking to a guy that I went to school with. My husband can be rude, hateful, inconsiderate, etc… almost all the time and when I talk to this guy that I went to school with he makes me feel like I am wanted and loved, he is really nice; with that said I am falling for him while loving my husband. What should I do, do you think I need to back off of this guy that I went to school with or should I leave my husband? We have a kid together and that makes it even harder to decide.
-In Love With Two Guys
Dear “In Love With Two Guys” I don’t think you are totally in love with your husband, because why do you feel the need to seek attention elsewhere? I hear a lot of fear in your question. You say your husband is “rude, hateful, and inconsiderate,” so then, why are you still with him? If he really has those traits, then why would you want to be with someone like that, or for that matter, have your son around someone like that?
It seems you are unhappy in your marriage, and I don’t think it has much to do with this other guy. I think you are unhappy and you are seeking happiness elsewhere, but as they say, “You can’t be happy with someone else unless you’re happy with yourself,” so I think you really need to do an inquiry on your situation and decide what is best for you and your son.
I do not recommend jumping from one relationship to another, but I do think it is clear that something needs to change in your current situation.
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