Dr. Halperin says:
Dear Two Guys, I’m not sure what the problem here is. If on the one hand your feelings for your husband are what you say, then why would you speak with someone from the past in the first place. If you love your husband to death and have a child, what are you doing? You are telling us and yourself that you love him but yet you are so available to another man that I doubt your statements in the first place.
If you love your husband you would not have allowed yourself to fall for another guy. In life there are always opportunities to meet and become infatuated with another guy. But, if your primary relationship is as good as you say there would be no reason for you to get to the point of falling.
I think that, in spite of your declarations to the contrary, there are problems at home that you are not admitting or not discussing. Your comments about your husband’s attitude tells me that you need some more exploration.
I suggest you seek out counseling to figure out what is really going on with your husband. You may love him to death but still not feel loved and appreciated by him in return.
I would say that you aren’t in love with two guys, you may not even be in love with one guy.
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Libby Keatinge is Senior Editor: Love+Sex at BettyConfidential.
Dr. Morris Halperin is a licensed psychologist practicing in Los Angeles for over 30 years.