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I Found a Condom
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I started dating this guy about three months ago and we seem to really click despite the fact that we have yet to define our relationship. Well the last time I was at his house I emptied the garbage can in his bedroom and a used condom tumbled out. I finally got the nerve to ask him about it and he said that he used the condom to masturbate into. My question is: Is it in a male’s genetic makeup to use a condom on himself or do you think he was trying to tap dance his way out of a sticky situation?
Steven: He is lying. But the bigger issue is – you have been/are in a relationship that is not defined. Remember if a man doesn’t say he is in a committed relationship assume he is seeing other people even if he says he is not. If this is OK with you then OK. But if it is not, make it clear what you want. And if he is willing to give that to you and you can trust what he says then great. Otherwise, it might be time to get out before you catch something that might be with you for the rest of your life.