I'm Still In Love With My High School Sweetheart

Ask Your Friend...Ask Your Shrink: A mother is questioning her relationship and if a past love is her Mr. Right.
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I’m Still In Love With My High School Sweetheart

Ask Your Friend…Ask Your Shrink: A mother is questioning her relationship and if a past love is her Mr. Right.

-Libby Keatinge and Dr. Morris Halperin

Libby Keatinge and Dr. Morris Halperin

Dear Libby and Dr. Halperin,

I am struggling to make a choice. I am now in a serious relationship and have been for almost 4 years now. Him and I have a 1-year-old son together whom we love to death. Our relationship developed fast and it was very passionate at first. He is the most amazing, caring, loving, honest, and hard working person I’ve ever met. Quite the catch! Yet, there’s something that makes me wonder if I’m with the right man.

Back in high school I had my high school sweetheart. We had been together for almost 5 years(from my sophomore year in high school to my sophomore year in college). We were very private with our relationship and never really made public appearances together. We wanted our relationship to be only for us and no one else. Him and I ended in good terms and have remained in contact.

We’ve recently talked about how much we wish we could go back to the times when we were together and happy; he says he’d do anything to start a new beginning with me and would even care for my son as his own. I still have a close relationship with his family and they’d love to see us together again, but how do I know this will last? How do I know that this is the real thing and that this will truly make me happy? How do I handle having another man care for my son? I still have strong feelings towards my current boyfriend and father to our son. However, I feel that the love I have for him is the type of love I have for my best friend. I enjoy his company and love him dearly, but the comeback of my ex has been killing me on the inside. What should I do? Do I do what is best for my son and his father? Or should I take a chance and follow what I believe might be my happy ending?

-having trouble choosing what’s right in California

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Libby says:
Dear California, I think the focus needs to be on your current relationship and how you really feel before you make any sudden moves. Think about your relationship if the high school sweetheart did not exist. Are you truly happy? Would you want to be with this man?

When someone is thinking of someone else, they are not truly complete and happy in their relationship. If you decide that you are not truly happy, then you have the question of dating the high school sweetheart. What will the living arrangements be? What if it doesn’t work out? Think about the effect it could have on your son.

There is a chance that you could rekindle your romance with your high school sweetheart, but then it will not pan out the way you planned. Will you be devastated? Will you be ok on your own?

I think you need to consider all the ways that this could pan out and consider all the options and if you would be comfortable with a variety of endings. If you are sure that the relationship you are in is not your dream relationship, and you are merely “friends” then you should chase your dream. However, all relationships eventually fade to less heat and passion then the first few months, so then you need to ask yourself, would you want to be with your high school sweetheart if the hot and heavy feelings burn out? What if you end up alone? Is that ok too?

Have a serious conversation with yourself and answer all these questions before you decide to do anything. And, of course, consider what is best for the health and happiness of your son.

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  1. When I read that you wanted to keep the relationship private, that made me wonder who made that decision? To me, that’s a red flag. Most people want to shout it to the rooftops that they have found someone who loves them. If he was the one who made the initial decision- guys generally do that so they can play the field- I wouldn’t go back to him. Unless of course, you want to spend your life pretending to the world that you’re single. And then, I’d wonder why you think so little of yourself to do that.
    I’m siding with the doc.

  2. This is such a tough one! I was in the same exact situation in high school with my sweetheart, but we ended up breaking up. He married a girl he liked in jr. high and they have been married for 37 years. I was married to the father of my children (very unhappily) for twenty years and to this day I am still in love with my high school sweetheart, so I can certainly empathize. Just be sure that you try to be as realistic as possible when it comes to thinking of your options concerning the first love. It's been a long time and memories can become clouded over that length of time.
    Don't downplay the importance of your current relationship. He is the father of your children, so there will always be that connection. I would suggest maybe spending a long, private weekend with each of them, taking at least a month between the two and see if that helps. You can never really thoroughly know a person romantically until you've lived with them, so maybe the get away weekends would give you some clarity. Good luck!

  3. I think i am in a similar situation and some few comments will be of help. There is this girl who loved me and i loved her too while in high school, but we lost contact thereafter. we met again after 20 years when we are both 40yrs and married. The funny thing is that we are both not happy in our marriages and the love we had for one another has rekindled and in a more stronger way. What do we do coz we both have families but are seriously thinking of spending our remaining years together.

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  5. My whole life i ve never had a stable relationship all men come get want they and go.As a matter of fact i saw myself as tool for all men.I don’t no its like i was just not loveable no matter how i give my all to them they end up living me with nothing but a broken heart.All these bad relationship i had experienced led to a psychological breake down thank my star that i got through that.Finding a man was never hard for me they just all wanted sex with me and once they get it, they all live but for the first time i found one that was willing to stay.I had never felt whole in my entire life but with him i kept floating in the sky.Yes he was married and unhappy he only married his wife cos they had a child together.One thing was for sure, as he made me whole i also did to him.We where in love as much as i cud tell he was willing to divorce his wife to be with me but she wudn’t let go like she owned his life and wanted him to me miserable 4 life.I don’t no but something made her too dangerous for him to get out of the marriage.For the first time in my life i found a man that was not willing to go anyway he was willing to fight for our love ven if it kills him.2 year passed and she wouldn’t let go so i just felt i should do something about it.I seeked advice and help if they could i even checked the internet for solution which ended up being a waste of time.However, i saw articles or rather comments of a lot of persons who used spell casting to fix their relationship and some it get those who they loved to see how much they loved them.And they all kept referring to a particular spell caster mutton osun.At first i just ignored it but my lover came across those article also.After we talked about it we decided to contact him and asked if he cud in any way help us.He just and only asked us to provide some really weird materials that just thinking if it made me scared not like they were harmful its just that i was not used to this things.We ie me and my lover decided that we sould asked him to get them with what we sent to him ie, money.We asked him to cast a spell to make ,y lover wife set him free and he did as we asked and it walked i know cos 12 hours before he said he has completed the spell, she was still very much not going to sign any divorce paper but after the spell was completed all we did was give her the paper and without a fight he signed it.I know its hard to belief only the people close to us know how true this is.lets just say you want to contact use this email address godsofosunx@rockemail.com

  6. I'm a married woman living happily with three kids and a lovely husband.But wasn't always a bed full of roses for me.I was once married to a man before meeting my present husband.I was compelled to marry my ex husband because my family wanted me to marry a high society man like my dad claimed to be.I never loved him but maybe he did love me but forcing it on someone only pushes the person further away.The love of my life was separated from me because my parents said they were just ordinary in order word he had no money and power.I was always in contact with the love of life but having a relationship with him wasn't possible because i was married but the more i went further from the love of my life the greater the love i felt from him.when my husband discovered that i was still keeping in touch with the love of my life he did a lot of things that i can not start talking about.I asked for a divorce and he refused because of the situation that was at hand.After a long while of misery and torments i found a spell caster named BANOJO online through some comment on how i got my husband out of my life.I contacted the spell caster and told him my problems.He gave me a list of materials to buy which i later sent to him in order for him to make the spell.Since then my life has turned around and all my problems has been solved.So if you have that same problem or a similar one you can contact him via email at bababanojospell@outlook .com .Good luck as you do so.

  7. This may sound made up but it is very true. It is more complex than I will describe but in essence, I married the best friend of the girl I was in love when with I was in High School. I had joined the Army and she had married a guy that I knew. Upon my return I accidently met he best friend on a train and we talked and then dated. We eventually got married. My new wife knew my feelings for her gf and we often spent time with her and her husband. We flirted innocently but that was the extent of it.

    My old love got divorced and after selling their home, moved in with us until she could get a good job and afford to buy a home on her own. During that time we became family. We did everything together. The gf had her own room but she ate with us, went out with us and jokingly was called wife number 2. There was never anything sexual between us. We never even had sex when we were dating. She was the best looking girl in town according to most but also a very good girl. :)

    She called us family and participated in all of my family's events. If we were invited to a wedding, she got invited too. One day we were all drinking too much wine and she was saying that all the guys he has been dating were singlel for a reason and she had not even had sex with anyone. We never talked about sex with her. My wife does not like talking about sex at all. Out of the blue my wife offers my services to her. After assuring us it was OK, a few times, we went to the bedroom and had the sex we so wanted to do since we were teenagers. Later on my wife entered the bedroom to ask who died due to the loud screams she heard. I patted the bed for her to sit down to talk with us and with a little urging by me, we ended up in our first every threesome. That night my wife learned that she is bisexual and that our girlfriend was also but never told us.

    She was with us for most of our marriage, even after she married. The guy was told of her relationship with us and agreed to it. We never were told why but the guy came off as being very gay. He is a doctor so we assume the marriage was for appearances only. We lived a poiy type life with our gf splitting her time between her two relationships. Our life was great and prosperous with never a problem due to the the lifestyle we led. I got my old high School love and my new love, at the same time. I know I am lucky. Very lucky.

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