Is He The One? Amanda Seyfried’s Not So Sure
How can you tell if you’ve found your soul mate?
So Letters to Juliet star Amanda Seyfried is officially taking a break from boyfriend (and shirtless suitor in Mamma Mia!) Dominic Cooper, according to People.
Not much of a surprise, given her quote about him in this month’s Teen Vogue:
“A lot of people ask me, ‘Is Dominic the one?’ I don’t know, and I’m fine with that. Too much planning can lead to heartbreak. Love is great and possible, always, but it’s very rare to have the feeling that ‘I want to be with this person forever.'”
On one hand, what a wise and reasonable response for a 24-year-old. She has too many years and too grand a career ahead of her to settle on a soul mate just yet.
On the other hand, sucks to be Dominic. (If he had blurted a similar response about Amanda, I’m sure we’d be decrying him as a heartless cad right now.)
But Amanda has a point. All our lives, we’ve been groomed to hunt for “the one.” We soak it up from rom-coms and love songs and Sex and the City and the Delilah radio show and our parents and Platinum Weddings and Crate & Barrel catalogues (which we all know are just a gateway drug to bridal registries).
Wouldn’t we be better off planning a quest to find ourselves instead of planning a lifetime with some imaginary man who looks good next to woven serving platters? As Amanda sagely warns, all that planning can only lead to heartbreak.