BC: What’s the deal with foreplay – how can a woman make this more fun for her guy?
EI: Since conventional wisdom is that women desire foreplay more than men, most think of foreplay as being focused on her. If you’d like more foreplay, lead by example, incorporating more in your approach to your guy. Think more broadly and creatively about foreplay – don’t start when you turn off the lights, and don’t relegate it to the bedroom. Start with a text message in the middle of his day. Continue with a surprise under the table during dinner. Follow up with dessert in the kitchen, and finish before breakfast in the morning. Be creative, and you might be surprised by the response you get.
BC: What advice would you give to a couple who hasn’t tried sex toys in the past but is interested in experimenting?
EI: Start with a vibrator or other accessory that is aesthetically pleasing, unintimidating (read: Smaller than he is), and non-distracting (quiet) so that it’s a welcome addition to the experience, rather than an intrusion. Our ICONIC POCKET vibrator is a great starting point for many. Incorporate your new friend into one of your more typical sexual patterns so that it’s a flourish, not the focal point. Alternate who’s holding the vibrator so that it’s an inclusive experience for both of you, and actively guide his hands rather than trying to communicate everything verbally. This will be easier for both of you, and is a great way for him to learn what you like.
BC: What is one thing you wish all women knew?
EI: Know thyself. The more you know about what you enjoy, the easier it is to enjoy yourself with another.
BC: What do single guys wish their girlfriends knew?
EI: How cool they are when no one’s looking.
BC: What do married guys wish their wives knew?
EI: There’s more that they’d love to try, but they’re afraid to ask.