Make 2011 Your Sexiest Year Yet! Day 13: Pre-Sex Date Talk with Your Main Gay

TIps for when you decide to give him the night of his life! Plus: Exclusive discount code!

Make 2011 Your Sexiest Year Yet!?
Day 13: Pre-Sex Date Talk with Your Cyber Main Gay!

For when you decide to give him the night of his life! Plus: Exclusive discount code!

-Harvey Helms

sex talk with main gay

Welcome to Day 13 of your SEXIEST year ever! Click here to catch up on Day 12: Are You Red Carpet Picture Perfect?

Okay girls!  Many of you may have met “Mr. Right” over the holidays at parties or, God forbid, a fix-up from your Mother.  Is it time to share the “Secret of Life” with him? Yes? Well then it’s time for a quick pre-sex date talk with your Cyber Main Gay. Please consider this, and when I say “consider” I mean do it as I tell you, and you’ll start 2011 as your sexiest year ever!

It’s fast so pay attention.  Here we go….

Pre-date, use a body scrub and shave or wax everything that you think should be shaved or waxed. You want to be smooth as silk!  Use the body lotion version of your favorite fragrance instead of your regular Eau de toilette spray. Men and fragrance sometimes don’t mix.

Next, never wear a body smoother on your first sex date.  As much as we love them and what they do for our bodies, your man may think that you have to wear some special orthopedic underwear, probably due to some cheer leading accident in high school.Even if you are a clever girl and are successful in stashing your body smoother before the big moment, it will leave remnants of the day — lines in places they were never meant to be!  And, God forbid, you don’t find an opportunity to reclaim your precious undergarment. It’s a real mood killer. If you must, opt for a flowy romantic look that is pretty as well as figure forgiving.

And, of course, girls, because the date may end at your pad, not only make sure you have a flattering, silky robe or lingerie (wear one or the other, not both … you are not playing strip poker!), make sure you have great sheets and not too many pillows on that bed.  As for the pillows, straight men get scared if they cover more than 1/3 of the bed. They remind them of their ex or their grandma (neither of whom you want to conjure up at this moment!). For sheets, buy ones that feel great and aren’t too flowery (grandma or ex again!). I love some of the more expensive brands like Frette and Anichini, but recently came to discover SHEEX performance sheets! (Not only are they silky, you won’t move around like silk and they wick away sweat and other liquids). SHEEX were designed by college basketball coaches Susan Walvius and Michelle Marciniak after one of them commented to the other that they wished they could sleep in their performance basketball outfits!  How cool is that!  Buy them online at with the “HarveySentMe” promo code for the next week and save 20%!

Most importantly, buy condoms.  Take control and be safe!  Plus he’s a man and may forget.  Here’s the twist, buy 2 sizes! Regular and Trojan XXXL.  He’ll love the fact that you think he’s the “Big Man on Campus.”  If he’s not, you’re still prepared just like the Girl Scouts taught you!

Lastly, be confident! Remember that the Universe made you a Goddess and your every wish should be his command.

Sleep Tight!



Tune in tomorrow for our next great tip … and catch up on the previous tips here!

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Harvey HelmsHarvey Helms is a beauty culturist and writer, drawing on 30 years of experience in cosmetics, fashion and design. Harvey has held positions ranging from Global Director of Beauty for Revlon Cosmetics to Executive Director of Special Events for Donna Karan Beauty. Harvey currently lives and works in Silicon Valley, where he just finished writing his first book in a trilogy of three: an engaging tell-all on the fashion industry. Follow Harvey on Twitter at

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