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More Than Just Friends?
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I have a close guy friend who is nice, funny and attractive. I really enjoy his company, and I recently became aware of the fact that I am falling for him. Unfortunately I am clueless as to how he feels about me, because on the one hand he is very attentive, but on the other he talks to me about women that he is pursuing. An example of this would be a few weeks ago, when he mentioned a lady who is not especially interested in him. We have a great relationship, and he tells me practically everything. I am quite puzzled by his actions, although I wonder if maybe I’m just being too sensitive and his actions don’t actually mean anything.
Avery: It sounds like you need to be bold and take the next step. That step is giving him an indication of how you feel. You should ask him out on a weekend night and go to dinner and see how he acts towards you in a social setting. When you’re out with him, try something very casual, like touching him on his arm, and see how he reacts. If he’s only telling you a little bit about a girl who he was chasing, he may be looking for a reaction from you to see if you like him. Does he know you like him? You may have to work a little harder to give him the signs. You may be pleasantly surprised by his reaction!