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My Boyfriend Can’t Express Himself
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I’ve been with my boyfriend for two months; we were friends for five months prior to getting together. I really love him but I feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him, because he is always so negative. The entire time that I’ve known him he has complimented me on four separate occasions. I’m feeling uncomfortable and it’s irritating that he doesn’t express himself. I attempt to read him and it feels like I’m constantly trying too hard. I’m a very affectionate person and I am used to showing people how much I love them. My boyfriend has told me that I talk about my feelings too much, and he also said I remind him of the film How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. He doesn’t want me to expect him to say “I love you,” although I never brought that up. I have shut down completely since that day, and I know that guys are afraid of commitment but I have never tried to tie him down. I want him to start expressing himself, and my question is: am I trying too hard?
Steven: Why are you putting up with a man who does not treat you the way you want and deserve? If you don’t stand up for yourself it is unlikely you will ever get what you what. I think it is a common fact that women want to be loved and appreciated which it sounds like what you really want. My suggestion is step up and be clear about your needs that are not being met. Give him a short time frame to turn things around and if he doesn’t, find a man that will appreciate you the way you deserve.