It’s rare that someone will love Fluffy as much as you do. My honey is partially allergic to and not crazy about my cat CiCi, but he tolerates her and they manage to get along (which is great, since we’re getting married!). That said, you might be surprised. Some daters fall in love with their mates along with their furry companions. Bottom line: Don’t make pet predilections a deal breaker in your profiled online, and allow your date time to make a happy truce with your animal sidekick.
Laurie Davis is an online dating coach, founder of The Flirt Expert and author of Love at First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating which will be released in February 2013.
It’s one thing to be allergic to a pet, but it’s another to hate it. I assume you and your pet come as a package deal so if your date hates Poochie or Kitty, it’s really up to him (or her) as to whether this is a deal-breaker. When it comes down to it, you’re dating the person and not the pet, so you have to weigh how important this extra family member is to you and decide whether you can overlook it or not.
Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge and an online dating coach.
Animal lovers know how important their four-legged friends are to them. However, if you date someone who doesn’t have or like pets, they are less likely to see its appeal. In the beginning stages of dating, it’s always best to keep your pets out of the picture. As you two start to get more serious, slowly start to introduce your pet, but don’t expect him/her to love your pet like you do. If you feel s/he is the one, then you must be willing to make some compromises where the pet is concerned. And if s/he feels you are the one, s/he is more likely to accept your pet as part of your life and your future together.
Sometimes a pet can get in the way of a relationship. If you notice pets in someone’s online dating profile photo, it’s more likely than not that the pet will sleep in the same room or bed as them. If you’re not a pet person or have allergies, it’s best to be up front about it. I’ve seen relationships break up because a pet has home court advantage. My recommendation is to have a conversation about boundaries. The alternative is to seek someone who is a pet lover, where jealousy won’t get in the way of love.
Julie Spira is an online dating and relationship expert and best-selling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
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