My Date Hates My Pet – Do I Say: “Down, Boy” or “Stay?”

Sparkology's dating experts weigh in on what you can do if your new guy and your pet are, well, fighting like cats and dogs.
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It’s rare that someone will love Fluffy as much as you do. My honey is partially allergic to and not crazy about my cat CiCi, but he tolerates her and they manage to get along (which is great, since we’re getting married!). That said, you might be surprised. Some daters fall in love with their mates along with their furry companions. Bottom line: Don’t make pet predilections a deal breaker in your profiled online, and allow your date time to make a happy truce with your animal sidekick.

Laurie Davis is an online dating coach, founder of The Flirt Expert and author of Love at First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating  which will be released in February 2013.

It’s one thing to be allergic to a pet, but it’s another to hate it. I assume you and your pet come as a package deal so if your date hates Poochie or Kitty, it’s really up to him (or her) as to whether this is a deal-breaker. When it comes down to it, you’re dating the person and not the pet, so you have to weigh how important this extra family member is to you and decide whether you can overlook it or not.

Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge and an online dating coach.

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Animal lovers know how important their four-legged friends are to them. However, if you date someone who doesn’t have or like pets, they are less likely to see its appeal. In the beginning stages of dating, it’s always best to keep your pets out of the picture. As you two start to get more serious, slowly start to introduce your pet, but don’t expect him/her to love your pet like you do. If you feel s/he is the one, then you must be willing to make some compromises where the pet is concerned. And if s/he feels you are the one, s/he is more likely to accept your pet as part of your life and your future together.

Suzanne K. Oshima is a matchmaker and dating coach at the boutique dating sire, Dream Bachelor & Bachelorette and founder of Single in Stilettos.

Sometimes a pet can get in the way of a relationship. If you notice pets in someone’s online dating profile photo, it’s more likely than not that the pet will sleep in the same room or bed as them. If you’re not a pet person or have allergies, it’s best to be up front about it. I’ve seen relationships break up because a pet has home court advantage. My recommendation is to have a conversation about boundaries. The alternative is to seek someone who is a pet lover, where jealousy won’t get in the way of love.

Julie Spira is an online dating and relationship expert and best-selling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.

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3 thoughts on “My Date Hates My Pet – Do I Say: “Down, Boy” or “Stay?”

  1. Joe says:

    Pets are the most important of our member of our family and they are the given the most important priority among all. But some people don't want to ruin their relationship due to a pet. So for which they would are not interested in allowing any pet to their house.
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  2. James Boyle says:

    For me it depends on what kind of pet you have. Sometimes it can make the relationship strengthen but sometimes break apart. Honestly it should not be the reason of destroying your relationship. All dogs and cats can be train, even birds.

  3. Hate’s a strong word! One of three scenarios is probably going on in this situation: Your date hasn’t been around enthusiastic animals, your pet is a jerk, or your date is allergic to your pet. These problems can be solved by finding someone with a similar lifestyle, investing in pet training, or taking allergy medication.

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