The solution to a lifestyle that physically drains you is to take stock immediately of what you and your guy need to do to be sexually active with each other. Is getting away for a weekend out of the question or is it a possibility? Can you prioritize a time to “get together” at least once a week, at an hour early enough so that you’re both still relatively fresh?
Take charge of your life. Be your own manager. If you were being paid to arrange a schedule for a client or businessperson, you would do it. Why not treat yourself the same as you would another person?
A second reason for no sex is the “anger syndrome.” Do you hold on to anger and let it smolder, keeping your partner away? Anger is one of the least productive emotions. It drains you and keeps you from living. Get rid of it! Remember: Anger isn’t kissable, touchable, or sexy! It definitely won’t work sexually!
If stress, overwork, exhaustion, or fighting is not the reason for lack of sex it may be time to see a doctor. Health problems, both physical and mental, can cause a drop in sex drive.
Get a complete physical check-up. Physical problems from diabetes, thyroid, menstrual cycles, low testosterone, hormone imbalance, etc. can be affecting your libido. Certain medications, including birth control pills, also affect your sex drive and may be preventing you from having any sexual desire.
Taking everything into account, remember that you are in charge of your life and your sex life. Make it a priority.
Kristen Houghton is a Lifestyle writer and the author of the best-selling book, And Then I’ll Be Happy! Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness and Put Your Own Life First. She is a Lifestyle writer for The Huffington Post and twodaymag.com.