Online Dating Newbie: Step Away From the Electronics, Fellas

One Betty bridges the gap from online messaging to real world dating, but her matches can't seem to leave technology out of the picture.
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Online Dating Newbie: Step Away From the Electronics, Fellas

One Betty bridges the gap from online messaging to real world dating, but her matches can’t seem to leave technology out of the picture.

-Faye Brennan

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Betty’s own assistant editor made the brave decision to lose her online dating virginity and embark on an experiment looking for love (or just a fling) on the Internet. Here, she chronicles the frustrations, surprises, and excitement of shopping for a beau online. (The online dating veteran’s experiences can be found here.)

In my last update, I filled you in on all the real, live first dates I’ve been going on lately with guys I’ve met online. Some didn’t work out, while others did  (and very nicely, I might add), which convinced me that online dating, if you’re patient, is really a great way to meet new people.

I thought that since I bridged the gap from online messaging with potential matches to actual in-person dates, technology would just play a small role in my romantic life from here on out.

But, of course, it hasn’t. I should’ve known: first comes the online messaging, then comes the actual first date, and then comes the texting!

Read Online Dating Veteran: FML (F*&k My Life)

Don’t get me wrong, I like to text, and most of the time, it’s much easier than picking up the phone and calling. But, too much texting can start to get annoying (and, I have an iPhone, which is probably the worst phone to text on. Whenever I write, “Ooh,” it loves to replace it with “Pooh.” I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sent the apologetic, “OMG, I’m so sorry, that’s not supposed to say that!”).

Here are my texting guidelines when it comes to dating. Texing = good, when:

  • it’s to arrange a date
  • it’s a brief check-in, like “Hey, how’s your day been?”
  • it’s an unexpected sweet sentiment or sexy turn-on in the middle of the day (those are my favorite)

Texting = bad, when:

  • it becomes a long, back and forth conversation
  • it’s serious and meaningful, like “I really like you” or, “That really pissed me off”
  • it’s keeping me from getting my beauty sleep (I’ve noticed guys seem to get very text-happy late at night)

I like texting when it’s a means to an end, kind of like how online dating sites are. It’s a great tool to use when starting a connection, but it shouldn’t become an integral part of the relationship. Yet, I find that most of the communication I’ve been having with my dates has been through SMS.


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0 thoughts on “Online Dating Newbie: Step Away From the Electronics, Fellas

  1. lovesbetty says:

    I’m totally with you on the texting!

  2. sugarpie says:

    texting is a big pain.

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