Our Romantic Comedy Culture

Real-life relationships don't look like the ones on T.V.-and that's how it should be.
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Friends with benefits

Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake in ‘Friends With Benefits.’

So what? First, remember correlation is not causation. But, if these results are causal, it’s possible than bingeing on idealized relationship media leads people to look for something in relationships that doesn’t really exist in reality. Holmes cited other research showing that “soulmate thinking” can have negative consequences for relationship functioning.

In short, if we become convinced that relationships should be easy, problem free and promote a continual state of nirvana, then we are wildly misunderstanding everyday demands of being in a successful relationship. Consequently, we’ll feel frustrated and disappointed more often than not.

What’s the best way to interrupt this dynamic? A good way to answer this question is with another question: How do we remind ourselves that very few people can look like the cover models featured in Cosmo and Men’s Health? I think many women say something like, “That looks great, BUT the average dress size is 12-14 and very few people look like her.”

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In other words, to protect against the self-image punishment offered by the fashion industry, we remind ourselves about the true nature of reality.

What’s the true nature of reality about our relationships? Even if you believe in a soulmate, relationships take work. It’s impossible for your partner to read your mind, and each person must express his/her wants and needs openly and uncritically for a relationship to work. Making sex work also is hard—couples need to talk about their desires and be prepared to face sensitive, possibly uncomfortable sexual issues.

Ask many long-term married couple the secret to a successful relationship and they will say

“hard work.” As much as our Romantic Comedy Culture would have us believe otherwise, relationships do not succeed by magic. We must cultivate our relationships and nurture with all our might.

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