Mom to Mom
Who’s to blame when they grow up too fast?
OK, so I’m not that cool anymore. My kids are on to me. They’d rather go to the movies with their friends, or hang out at the park with their friends, or lock themselves in the basement with their friends. Or, well you pick a verb and add the noun “friends,” and that’s pretty much it – that’s what they’ll choose.
But I’m not cool with that. I’m going to be an influence on my kids, no matter how nerdy or how dorky I am, or how much I embarrass them when I sing Sharpay’s Fabulous from High School Musical 2 (Important Note: High School Musical 3 in theaters October 24!). I’m still going to play my Mamma Mia! CD in the car, no matter how badly it makes my oldest son’s ears bleed. Because I’m their mom and they’re going to have to deal with it.
And you know what? This U.S. News & World Report article says it’s OK for me to do this!
Parents who are involved with their kids’ lives, who know where they are, who spend time with them, who listen to them when they talk, whine, gripe, even yell, are the ones who are the most influential on their children. Your kids might pretend like they’re too cool for you when they’re starting middle school; they might do that “eye-roll” thing a little too much, or push the limits one time too many, but all that is just a test. We’re being tested!
They’re testing us to see how far they can get away with things, and believe me, they really want us to reel them in. They want us to say to them, “Hey, I see that you’re growing up, and that’s what you’re supposed to do, but do so slowly, and within the limits, and under my watch, and I’ll help you. We’ll do this ‘growing up thing’ together, safely and carefully, the right way, and you can still have fun with it.”
And maybe they’ll still let me play my Mamma Mia! CD if I promise to turn it down just a little bit!
Tell us: Do you think today’s kids are growing up too fast?