Pets Can Teach You to Improve Your Relationship!
The benefits of eager greetings and lots of patience.
Thinking about going to couples therapy? First take a look at the relationship you have with your dog or cat.
Suzanne Phillips, a professor of clinical psychology at Long Island University in New York, says that the way people interact with their pets can provide a blueprint for the way they act with their partners.
“No matter how you feel or what mood you are in,” Phillips writes on www.psychcentral.com, “you greet your pet with a positive, even animated, hello and often with a display of physical affection.” When was the last time you did that with your boyfriend (or vice versa)?
Phillips also says that our lack of negative expectations toward our pet makes us more affectionate toward them. For example, if we come home late from work, we know our cat or dog will be waiting patiently for us, without any anger, so we come home without any built-in hostility. (Of course, some late nights might be worth arguing about, but it doesn’t hurt to adopt a calmer approach.)
Another pet-related behavior that can improve human relationships: an acceptance of faults (a pet owner will say, “He’s a bit hyper, but we love him anyway”).
If enough of us did this, who knows? The phrase about treating someone “like a dog” could acquire a whole new meaning. (PsychCentral)