Rebuttal: How Men View the Casual Hookup (And the Rules They Want Us to Follow)

Relationship expert Matt Titus gives us the lowdown on what guys think about casual hookups... and they are definitely not on the same page as us.
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Rebuttal: How Men View the Casual Hookup (And the Rules They Want Us to Follow)

Relationship expert Matt Titus gives us the lowdown on what guys think about casual hookups… and they are definitely not on the same page as us.

-Matt Titus

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Last week, we ran a piece called, “How Women View the Casual Hookup (And the Rules We Want Men to Follow).” We asked our resident male relationship expert, Matt Titus, to read it and then write the guy’s perspective of casual hookups. Here’s what he had to say…

Although I’d love to believe there are more “Samantha Jones” types out there, it’s uncommon to find that kind of woman – one who just wants sex and nothing else. In my experience, women cannot separate sex from feelings.

But, for those of you who can really appreciate emotionless sex, you should know about a guy’s set of hookup rules before you jump into his bed:

Read How Women View the Casual Hookup (And the Rules We Want Men to Follow)

1. Don’t expect anything.
Ladies, please don’t expect brunch the morning after a late-night hookup. We’re really hoping you go down on us first thing in the morning, get dressed and leave. No guy wants to feel obligated to have a conversation with his penetration partner over omelets. Most likely, we’re a bit hungover and our first meal of the day will be wings washed down with a beer at a local sports bar with our boys much later in the afternoon.

2. We’ll be honest, but don’t kid yourself.
As for full disclosure, us guys have no problem revealing that you are one of several women in our mix. If it bothers you that we’re currently f***ing someone else (with protection) later that week or hopefully even later that day, the “casual hookup” is probably not the right scenario for you. If you know that I’m dating someone, (i.e. taking a girl to dinner), please don’t have similar expectations. There are girls we date and girls we just hook up with. It’s pretty black and white. If you begin to wonder, “Why can’t I be taken out?” or “Why am I not good enough to date?” or even, “Why can’t I get fed before sex?”, then you probably should be looking for Relationship Guy instead. (We’re out there, too).


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0 thoughts on “Rebuttal: How Men View the Casual Hookup (And the Rules They Want Us to Follow)

  1. Lennie Ross says:

    I’m perfectly willing to accept that as how a man feels about casual hook ups and why I strongly urge women not to partake in them. Women want more. We are kidding ourselves, but nobodly else, if we say we want less. Ladies, if a man just wants to use you for sex, then let him call an escort and pay for it… Instead of you paying for it emotionally. Just say no to the one night stand. You’re kidding yourself if you think you are benefitting from this. You’d be better off having sex with another girl for a casual fling than a man… At least you would feel respected and you could try on each other’s shoes after! Ha. ;) For more of my thoughts on dating and relationships, check out my blog.

  2. Magnolia says:

    In my case, it was the man who, I felt, got attached. . .I knew it when, after being intimate 3x, he was asking to see me over lunch just to talk. No sex involved. I never did coz I don’t want to give him hope that there was anything more. Now he would text me often saying he missed me and will we please see each other (after not seeing him for 3 months). I am having a hard time letting him understand. I don’t want to hurt him any further. Any advice Matt?

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