3. “Fly Me To The Moon”
I came to discover this technique riding the subway home from work. I was fixated on a super hot guy standing by the door, think Boris Kodjoe. I was looking him up and down and up and down, about to do a thrice over when I noticed his fly was totally down. I walked over to him and whispered “your fly”. He of course was caught off guard, fumbling as he tried to quickly and discreetly zip it up. He kept thanking me for looking out for him and was so appreciative. We ended up chatting until my stop came upon which he asked for my digits.
If we were all only so lucky to constantly run into hot guys with their fly down. Desperate times call for desperate measures; you’ve got to create these “fly down” situations for yourself. If I see a cute guy in line or sitting at the bar now I’ll sometimes be like, “you’ve got something in your nose”, or “a little something on your mouth.” Totally makes the guy vulnerable and embarrassed as they start wiping their face and trying to get “it” off and it opens the door for them to talk to you. Keep in mind this tactic works best if done ‘one on one’ and discreetly. You’re probably not gonna win him over if you “out” him for the stain on his pants in front of the entire office.
4. “Be Direct, Ask For Directions”
It’s a little known fact; men love being the “experts.” They also tend to eat up the whole damsel in distress routine, leading us to our fourth and final method for getting their attention. If I’m ever walking somewhere and see an attractive guy on the street I’ll walk up to him and say, “excuse me, I’m totally lost can you help me find ‘blah’.”
If a guy is interested in me, this will lead to an entire conversation where I will share how I’ve been directionally challenged my entire life, where I’m originally from, hell, I may even get him to drop what he’s doing entirely and escort me to my “destination”. At the end of the day, what’s the worst thing that can happen? If he’s not that “into” you, he’ll tell you where to go, you’ll ignore his directions and be on your merry way.
Amber Soletti is the co-founder of one of NYC’s hottest dating services and a marketing consultant for BeautyVt.com. Amber has written many published articles on dating advice and the NYC singles scene. She, along with her edgy, tongue-in-cheek “themed” speed dating events, singles parties and free online dating service have been featured by The New York Times, Howard Stern, Regis & Kelly, The New York Post, What Not To Wear, Dateline NBC, Good Day NY, CNN and more.