You’ve been with your boyfriend a few months, and with the holidays right around the corner, you may be throwing around the idea of buying your boyfriend’s mother a gift. You’re hesitant because you’re not that close to her, and you don’t want to give her the wrong thing. What to do?
Deciding whether or not you should get your boyfriend’s mom a gift can be difficult. While your boyfriend may tell you not to worry about, you do anyway because you don’t want her to think that you don’t like her. To help you decide, here are the factors that justify giving your boyfriend’s mom a present.
1. She gave you a present last year.
If your boyfriend’s mom gave you a gift last year, it’s likely she will give you one this year as well. It’s best not to be empty-handed this time.
2. Your boyfriend tells you she got you a gift.
If your boyfriend’s mother has purchased a gift for you, it’s only nice to have one to give to her when she hands hers to you. It will score you major boyfriend mommy points, too.
3. You’re eating a holiday dinner she’s preparing.
As a guest in her home, it’s a nice gesture to offer a gift. Something like a centerpiece or dessert would be perfect for this type of gift giving.
4. You talk to your boyfriend’s mom often.
If you see your boyfriend’s mom a few times a week and you’ve had some meaningful conversations with her, it’s perfectly okay to get her a Christmas present. It’s likely she has connected with you, and the gift will reinforce that connection.
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5. She doesn’t like you.
When a boyfriend’s mom doesn’t like his girlfriend, there’s sometimes nothing that can be done about it. However, that shouldn’t keep you from trying. Asking your boyfriend what type of gift she would like and then getting it for her may make her change her feelings towards you – even if it’s just a tiny bit.
6. Your boyfriend says she would like one.
Ask your boyfriend this: If you got his mom a present, would it be well-received, or would she think it was weird? A son knows his mother best, so take his advice about it.
7. Your gut tells you to buy one.
If you keep thinking about getting her a gift, then you should just get her one. There’s a reason why you are thinking about it, and it’s best just to go with it. It doesn’t have to be expensive or big; just a small something to say Happy Holidays and that you’re happy to be with her son will do nicely.
Pro Tip: Presenting the Gift to Your Boyfriend’s Mom
When giving a gift, it’s important not to make it about yourself. You don’t want to make it seem like you just got it for her so you could score major brownie points. Simply hand it to her with a smile and say, “you’re welcome” when she thanks you. From that moment on, don’t mention the gift. She may say something about it, but staying humble is the best way to respond. This shows that you are selflessly giving it to her, which is a very good image to portray to your boyfriend’s mother. She wants to feel as though you’ll be just as selfless with her son.
Happy gift giving!
Marcelina Hardy is a freelance writer for Writing Services Online and a relationship coach for Relationship Repair Coach. With over seven years of experience, she can help you with articles for your website or relationship coaching for your relationship.