On a dating profile, if you have simply checked a box reading, ‘want children someday,’ we identify you as normal and don’t give it a second thought. On the other hand, if no such box is present and you compose an essay on the wonders of motherhood and babies, you will certainly be limiting your prospects. Being out there about your longing to procreate may scare off a lot of potential suitors, but the ones who do seek you out will be more like-minded, or at least open to a path of ‘being fruitful and multiplying.’
Relationship coach, advice columnist, David M. Matthews is the author of Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider’s Guide to How Men Think.
I believe in truth in advertising, so I absolutely think you should mention you want to have children in your online dating profile. The easiest way to do this is to check off the multiple-choice questions stating your interest. This way you won’t need to mention it again in your bio. Don’t think for a minute that you’ll scare away a man by stating that you’re looking to have children. You’ll only send away the ones that would take away the precious years of your life who don’t want to have kids.
Online dating and relationship expert, Julie Spira is the best-selling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
Most dating sites allow you to specify in the generic section if you want kids, so there isn’t really a need to elaborate in the long-form text section. In general, if you are looking for a serious relationship and as part of that relationship will someday want kids/family, I think you absolutely should mention this somehow. The trick is not to overdo it – that can ring a ‘this woman is looking for a sperm donor’ alarm bell. Briefly mention your desire to have kids and a family someday, but don’t write much more than that. Deeper discussions should wait until a few months into a new relationship.
Dating/relationships columnist, Neely Steinberg is known as Boston’s Premier Dating Coach for the Modern-day Woman.
It’s very simple on an online dating profile to just check a box saying that you want kids. That’s ALL you need to do. Your online dating profile should talk about you and your experiences, who you are, and what you’re all about…not your biological clock, your future children, and your visions of stopping at Jamba Juice in a minivan on the way to soccer games. An online dating profile needs to get people excited and hook them in, which isn’t going to happen with visions of a tamer life.
David Wygant is a dating coach for men and women.
Michelle Mazzarella is Head Tastemaker of Sparkology, a luxury, quality-driven dating website.