Single Girl Envy
Is being single really all that great?
-Amy, Divine Caroline
Single girl envy is the name for that feeling a girl gets when she’s in a relationship and suddenly she feels kind of . . . trapped. It’s not that you don’t like your boyfriend necessarily . . . it’s just that, you wish you could go out for a few drinks with the girls this weekend instead of to his parents house . . . again. And you kind of, sort of wish you could go over and speak to that uhhh-mazing looking guy by the bar. Except you don’t because that would be bad. Baddd girlfriend. And you suddenly seem to be the only girl around in a relationship, while all your friends are going out. Again. Without you. And if you’re anything like me, you will understand exactly what feeling I’m talking about!
It’s the opposite, if you like, of that feeling you get when your friend comes round to tell you that she’s going out with that guy she’s been drooling over, or that she and her ex number one million and fifty three just got back together. And suddenly you become the last of your friends to get a boyfriend or a serious relationship and no one wants to do anything this weekend because they’re going out with their boyfriends and are all excited and nervous and . . . and loved up, because they’re going to meet his parents for the first time. Because he wants them to meet his parents.
Most of us have experienced both of these non-too-rare experiences at some point, but I regret to tell you that I am most often girl number one. I am the best friend who calls round to tell you which guy I’m going out with this time. (I feel I should point out I don’t quite have one million and fifty three ex’s, even if it does sometimes feel like it!) and having been both of these people on countless occasions, I can tell you with certainty, that it’s all in your head. If you were single right now, you’d be feeling like girl two but because you’re not, you want to be. And there’s only one simple solution. Well, okay, there are two, but a friends with benefits arrangement probably isn’t the most sensible option and we know it!! And the only thing you can do (and it’s harder than it sounds—well of course it is!) is to live for yourself! When was the last time you tried that? Huh?
Amy writes for Divine Caroline.