Be All That You Can (Or Want Him To) Be
This is one of the greatest lessons I’ve ever learned in life: if you want something new in a relationship, embody it yourself and it will come back to you. This works especially well when it comes to sex, since sex is one of the first aspects of a monogamous relationship that can become boring. It’s also the area we’re least likely to admit we’re no longer thrilled with. But, it happens. Part of the draw of sex is intrigue and danger, and that’s just not going to be there once you’ve done it every Tuesday and Saturday for a year, even if you own a French maid’s costume (if you don’t, you can borrow mine).
So, think about what you want in sex to liven it up, and instead of asking for it outright (which can feel awkward and make your partner feel inadequate), just do it yourself. If you want dirty talk, talk dirty. If you’re into a stronger touch, grab him. Whatever you want, do it to him in a bold and clear way.
Believe me, it’s hard not to respond to dirty talk when someone is saying really racy things in your ear. Your boldness will spark his response and turn him the *&$^$ on!
Then, if your guy still doesn’t seem to catch on after you’ve made a few clear attempts, it may be time to talk about things in an upfront and playful way. But, why not try it the fun way first!