Surviving Monogamy: Tips From Your Gay Best Friend

Here's some sound advice from our Gay BFF on how to keep things super spicy in your relationship - even if you've been together for a long time.
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Welcome to Fantasies Island
Now that you’re in a relationship with someone you trust, it’s time to start taking even more risks. Don’t get lazy! This is your chance to explore all those fantasies you have with someone you love and who will laugh the whole experience off if it ends up being ridiculous.

We often find a partner and immediately put the relationship on autopilot. Security and safety are wonderful parts of a monogamous relationship, but they’re not exciting. That’s why people don’t date their 401K’s. Boring!

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Now is your chance to really spread your wings and try new stuff with your partner. Maybe you’re feeling “porny” one night, or maybe you two need to have a little in-town vacation in an expensive hotel room. Find a secluded part of your local state park to really explore “nature,” or take a vow of celibacy to see who can make the other break first. Whatever it is, whether sexual or just nude para-sailing lessons, keep growing and adding new elements to the relationship.

Doing this will not only keep your monogamous relationship as compelling as it was in week ten, but it will keep reassuring you and your partner that pairing for life was the way to go.

Tell us: what do you do to keep your relationship exciting?

Brian Clark is an actor/writer living in Los Angeles. He cares about people. But to keep it fresh he has also rescued an insane pitbull mix named Bombay.


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12 thoughts on “Surviving Monogamy: Tips From Your Gay Best Friend

  1. FBNYC says:

    These are some fabulous tips! I especially love the idea of keeping the flirting up throughout the whole relationship!

  2. uptowngirl says:

    Great advice! I think flirting is really important.

  3. lemoned says:

    I think it’s good to flirt with other people while you’re in a relationship. You get the excitement of meeting someone new, which can be a confidence-booster. Then you can take that extra-inflated ego home to your guy, no harm done!

  4. shopaholic says:

    Flirting is fun and harmless!

  5. lovesbetty says:

    I know how to flirt like a pro ;)

  6. Fern says:

    So true that you should take the initiative when you think something’s missing in the relationship. Or the bedroom!

  7. Fashionista says:

    I think the idea of not sharing absolutely everything together is really important, too. If you’re guy doesn’t like to shop, don’t drag him to the mall with you — he will resent you. Bring your gf instead. It’s a good way to keep some mystery in the relationship. When you’re off doing other things with other people, he’ll be wondering what you’re doing.

  8. jessica03 says:

    i agree with Fashionista. and oh yes, flirting is fun fun fun!

  9. CityLady212 says:

    Monogamy = boring eventually

  10. vdub4 says:

    LMAO at the more realistic “Jerry Maguire” line… Great tips Gay BFF… Fantasy is always so much fun to mix things up… I LOVE a little role playing with costumes… :) xo

  11. saxmantf says:

    After 20 years these tips are even more important. We like doing the in-town vacation to get away from the kids.

  12. Flirting is so much fun, gives you this huge adrenaline

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