Simpy put, this means that cute girls must get a lot of attention from plenty of guys, so competition – and the possibility of rejection – comes into play. Some guys may take their chances and message the cute girl anyway knowing their odds, or they may go for the girl who is not considered cute by everyone. They think they’ll have a better shot with her because there’s less competition. Message sent.
And that, my friends, is the curse of being cute.
But, when you think about it, perhaps it’s not a curse after all. Maybe it’s actually a blessing in disguise, because the guys who aren’t messaging you because of the threat of competition aren’t confident in themselves or what they bring to the table. If they were, they’d have no problem striking up a conversation over the Internet. Because, if you’re not confident when sending a message to a basic stranger on the computer who you’ll probably never run into in real life, then WHEN WILL YOU EVER BE CONFIDENT?
This “cute girl” phenomenon weeds out the bad apples and leaves men who are confident in themselves, know what they want and are willing to stick their neck out to get it, which is probably the type of guy cute and non-cute women are looking for anyways. OkCupid suggests that cute girls “play up” their flaws in their profile in order to create a more diverse attractiveness rating (and therefore receive more messages), but we say… don’t.
Cute and non-cute girls alike, leave your profile the way it is, provided that it’s honest about who you are and what you look like. Who cares about how many messages you’re getting? Your only concern should be about the quality of the people messaging you, and not whether or not you’re missing out because you are, in fact, totally cute.
Tell us: what do you think about OkCupid’s findings? Should “cute” girls try to play up their flaws now?
Faye Brennan is assistant editor at BettyConfidential.