When To Call, When To Text, and When To Leave Him Alone

Screw the rules: why playing games is the biggest sign that he isn't the one for you.
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Reggie was Nat’s fiancé at the time. He is now her soon-to-be ex-husband. And though I didn’t have a crystal ball to give me that info in advance, as I read through Nat’s worn copy of why men do indeed love bitches, I realized, I did not want to find the love of my life by being a bitch.

I didn’t want to find him by well-crafted text messages, and by purposely failing to call back. I didn’t want to attract someone because I was submissive and sweet or cold and calculating. I did not want love to be a game. I wanted it to be something beautiful and kind and natural.

Last spring, I met someone. Actually, we had been friends for years, but then one fateful night, he came over to give me a blowout, as in one for my hair. He was in hair school and I needed to look good for a photography session. And that night, we hooked up. And then we continued to hook up until we decided to call it a relationship. I asked him that first night to call me the next day so I didn’t have to worry about what any of it meant. And he agreed. And then he called the day after that and the day after that.

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I text him way more than he texts me but he tells me he loves my long rambling messages. And I never doubt that he is going to call because we now live together and I can find him pretty easily. And the thing is there were no games, there has only been love. Because the minute I start wondering what I am supposed to do or how I am supposed to act, I stop being myself. And if someone doesn’t love me for my long rambling texts or my inability to be anything close to coy, submissive or a calculating bitch, then it’s probably best for both of us if they go play games with someone else.

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7 thoughts on “When To Call, When To Text, and When To Leave Him Alone

  1. This is sad. If he loves you, why doesn’t he ask you to marry him? Sounds like you are being used. BTW, couples who live together b/f marriage have a 46% higher divorce rate. Think it thru. Not a good situ for you, honey.

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