Why Are Guys Intimidated By Success Like Emma Watson’s?
Emma Watson has declared she has trouble dating because guys find her success intimidating. But why?
Emma Watson is beautiful, intelligent, and happens to be the star of one of the most successful movie franchises of all time. Yet, she’s also a 21-year-old, ex-college student who can’t get a date. WTF?
The Harry Potter star recently spoke out about why she left Brown University and how hard it’s been for her to find a guy. “I say to my friends, ‘Why hasn’t X called me? Why doesn’t anyone ever pursue me?’ They’re like, ‘Probably because they’re intimidated.’ It must be the fame wall. It must be the circus that goes around me. Me, as a person, I find it hard to believe I would be intimidating.”
Surely, Emma the movie star who attends red carpet premieres and is hounded by hundreds of fans is intimidating. But, Emma the college student who walked around campus alone and threw parties as a normal girl? What was the fear in dating her?
Obviously, Emma’s life can’t be separated by famous and not famous (as she herself discovered), and in order to find love, she’ll need to find someone who’s comfortable in the spotlight. But even non-famous females encounter this problem. Women who have powerful, top-paying jobs or own their own businesses often echo the same complaint: “Men are too intimidated by my success.”
Is it because of the money? The change in power where the woman wears the pants in the relationship instead of the man? Or is it more about the male ego and the feeling that they’re not really needed if the woman has made it this far on her own?
It’s been an ongoing question since women started excelling in the workplace, and I don’t think we’ll come to a definite conclusion any time soon. Unfortunately, I’ve been wondering a lot lately if it really is foolish to think that we can have it all: success AND love. I hope it’s not, but there’s not much evidence to support that hope.
Tell us: why do you think men are intimidated by success? Can women really “have it all”?
Faye Brennan is senior editor at BettyConfidential.