In her Words
Betrayal in his Inbox
When is cheating, cheating?
By: Jill Benson
A while ago, I noticed my husband had been acting a bit distant. One Saturday, he left up his e-mail account. In the 10 years of our marriage, I have never felt the need nor had the interest to sneak into his account, but the temptation that warm Saturday afternoon was too much for me to resist. Next thing you know, my heart was racing, my fingers were clicking, and I was perusing his inbox.
In bold letters, there were several e-mails from an “unnamed” woman from his high school days; she had e-mailed him about his Facebook page. My fingers moved faster than my thoughts, and next thing I knew, I was reading her message, in which she professed how “in love” she was with him and how hot she thought he was. That he shouldn’t worry, because if we all got together she wouldn’t tell his wife about “them”… that she would keep their history a secret.
You can imagine the conversation that took place that night after the kids went down. My husband proclaimed that she is a loud, rather obnoxious individual, and that he never thought anything of it. He said he never wrote anything to her professing his feelings, and that he was simply reminiscing. He was dumbfounded as to how I could think he was cheating.
I couldn’t believe he would betray me and our marriage carrying on with someone like that. Even though there was no physical damage done, I think the mental pain might hurt as much. Where to do we go from here? Onto the couch, into counseling, or into a pint of Ben and Jerry’s?