Woman to Women
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do
10 ways to heal after a relationship
By: Courtney Beardsworth
1. Whatever you are feeling, let yourself feel it. Breakups are hard and no matter who did the dumping, how long you were together or the reason you’re splitting, it’s never fun to go through it. If you’re sad then let yourself be sad.
2. Time and distance heal all wounds. The more physical and emotional space between you and your ex, the easier it will be to move on.
3. Don’t immediately throw out all his pictures. While you may want to rip all reminders of him to shreds, there will be a day when your heart has healed and you may want to look back on the good times you shared. Instead, place the pictures in a box and open it when you feel well enough to reminisce.
4. Don’t do anything to make yourself look pathetic. This includes unnecessary phone calls, text messages, e-mails or visits.
5. Take time for yourself. Remember you? That person who made up half of the relationship? Try to get back to her – love and nurture her. You’re still in there somewhere!
6. Give therapy a try. It’s always good to have an unbiased opinion. Your friends and family will most likely side with you, but a therapist will listen and be honest from an outsider’s point of view.
7. Make a list of the things you want and don’t want in your next relationship. That way, when it’s time to get back out there, you’ll have an idea of what you are looking for.
8. Discover inner peace. Whether you find serenity through art, writing, music or nature, get in touch with you and begin to heal.
9. Pamper yourself. Take a weekend away; watch a chick flick; get a new haircut; go shopping. Retail therapy does wonders for a broken heart.
10. Don’t give up on the fact that someone better for you is out there. Carry that hope in your heart and know you’ll be happy again. You will find him one day when you least expect it.
Tell us: How do you deal with a tough breakup?