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Ditched for Another Woman
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: After 26 years of marriage, three sons and one grandson, my husband reunited with an old girlfriend in Indiana (we live in Georgia). This happened three years ago and my family is still dealing with the devastating effects. I have not been able to get over him, and I still love him even though I don’t see a reconciliation happening any time soon. He has yet to file for a divorce, despite the fact that he lives with the woman. I don’t understand why he hasn’t taken this next step. Is it possible that he still loves me, or am I just in denial?
Steven: To be honest with you, I would need to get more details in order to answer this question more appropriately. Regarding whether your estranged husband still loves you, of course there is no way to know from what you wrote. Sometimes things don’t even make sense to ourselves as to why we do what we do. Just remember, people are emotional beings not logical beings. Does he want to reconcile? Unfortunately, from what you wrote, it doesn’t sound that way. It has been three years and it sounds like it is time for you to pick up the pieces that he left you and your life in and start a new chapter. Of course, you are still going to love him because you have a lot of history together including three children and a grandchild, so don’t think that you are weak because you still love him. However, you can still love him and move on with your life. He has moved on, it’s your turn now. Start moving forward with yours, things will get easier and you will get stronger. Remember, do not dwell in the past because you need to be able to enjoy the present and have a great future. Perhaps it is time after three years to give yourself that gift. You deserve it!