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Ending a 20-Year Relationship
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: Well, I have been in a relationship for 20 years. I am not married and don’t have any children. My boyfriend still lives at home and doesn’t have a bank account; he was known to also be a cheater. Well about 12 years ago, I had a one night stand with this guy; I couldn’t stop thinking about him. We recently hooked up and things were great. I can’t wait to see him again; I feel bad about ending a 20-year relationship. I need help.
Avery: From the sounds of it, the person who you’ve been involved with for 20 years doesn’t seem like a motivated person. And since you’ve stuck it out with him for so long, this may be a comfortable relationship for you too. However, both of you have now cheated on each other, and since you’re ready to move on to this “new” guy, it’s probably going to be best for you to be honest with your 20-year boyfriend and just have a clean break. From the sounds of it, though, you may need to figure out what you really want in your life before you start any new relationships with anyone.