Starting from scratch
By: Mindy Fletcher
If you had told me when I was in my twenties that finding a man to marry would be easier than getting pregnant, I would have laughed in your face. But here I sit, happily married and facing the prospect of fertility treatments in order to get pregnant.
It just wasn’t something I ever worried about. In fact, most women facing this problem complain to me that they spent most of their early adult life trying not to get pregnant. That irony is not lost on any of us who are now older and going to great lengths to make it happen. I can say for myself, it has turned into a full blown project.
There have been calendars mapped out with my cycle and the ideal days to get pregnant. Not to mention ovulation tests, peeing on a stick and telling your husband, “tonight is the night, but no pressure.”
I realize the lengths to which we have gone thus far are minor compared to the next step. After a little more than a year of trying, we are going to see a fertility doctor.
The reaction from everyone I have told is different. Some are cheering me on. Some don’t understand why I am so worried saying, “You are still young – you have plenty of time.” Some have warned me that I most certainly will have twins or triplets. But, at the end of the day I have realized, it’s what my husband and I think that really matters.
For me it is a relief. I feel like I have been spinning my wheels. But, now I feel like we have a plan.