The importance of truth in online dating
By: Diane Sweeney
Zigzagging through the crowded mall, I slowly make my way toward the movie theatre. In about two minutes, I’ll meet Tony. I’m nervous. Usually, I don’t respond to Internet ads where the man is shirtless and flexing his muscles or writes “I am very athletic, and you should be, too.” But this time I did.
I can hold my own at the gym, but I also can hold my own chocolate bar, which I tend to do more than dumbbells. I’m not obsessed with my weight, and I could probably stand to lose a few pounds. However, I thought, “What the heck? I’m going to write to Tony.”
After a few phone calls, we decided to meet for a matinee. I arrived early so I could be there waiting for him. My hands began to sweat. Maybe this wasn’t a good idea. Maybe I won’t be his type. Maybe I won’t be athletic or thin enough for him. Maybe I shouldn’t write to men who are better looking than me.
I wiped my sweaty hands on a napkin and tried to shake all the self-doubt from my mind reminding myself that I’m a confident, outgoing woman.
Just then I heard a man say “Dianne?”
Nervously, I lifted my head expecting to see the incredibly handsome, muscular man from the picture, but instead I see someone totally different standing before me.
“Tony?” I ask, confused.
“Yeah, of course. How are you?”
“Fine. Wow, you look really different in person.”
“Oh well, I don’t like taking pictures of myself so some of them are a little older.”
“Really? How old?”
“Seven or eight years,” he says as he grabs the middle of his stomach. “As you can see, I need to get back to working out more. I’ve gained about 25 pounds.”
“Or take newer pictures,” I suggest. “Come on, the movie is about to start. I think I want some popcorn, do you want to share some?” I ask.
“Sure,” he says enthusiastically.
Tell us: How truthful do you have to be in your online profile?