Getting Married: "Should I Cancel This Wedding?”

Can a bride-to-be salvage this potentially abusive relationship only four months before the wedding?

Getting Married: “Should I Cancel This Wedding?”

Can a bride-to-be salvage this potentially abusive relationship only four months before the wedding?

runaway bride

The wedding is scheduled in four months and Elizabeth asks desperately, “Is there anything I can do to make this work?” Elizabeth and her fiancé have had an on-again off-again relationship for 13 years that started when she was only 15. As the wedding date gets closer his bad behavior has been getting worse.

Elizabeth writes, “He disrespects me, makes jokes about me, puts me down and curses at me when he gets upset. He even kicked a hole in the wall after I got upset because he was cursing at me!” She concludes her appeal for help by saying, “I’m very concerned because we are getting married in four months.”

She also writes that she has an appointment with a counselor very soon. That’s fortunate because I’m sure her counselor will tell her that no matter how far along the wedding planning has gone and how painful, embarrassing, difficult and potentially expensive it will be to cancel this wedding that’s exactly what needs to happen.

Read 10 Pieces Every Woman Absolutely MUST Have In Her Lingerie Drawer

Even if her fiancé is behaving badly because he is stressed by the approaching wedding or by Elizabeth’s stress about the wedding, he is displaying his anger in extremely immature and dangerous ways. This is an important sign of a potentially abusive relationship. Even if he promises to reform, which appears extremely unlikely, the changes he needs to make before Elizabeth can be safe in his company will take far longer than four months to learn and solidify. And right now it does not appear that he is even admitting that he has done anything wrong.

Both Elizabeth and her fiancé are minimizing a very serious problem in very different ways. He is denying the existence of a problem at all. He sees nothing wrong in his disrespectful behavior and when she complains about it he blames her and becomes violently angry. If we asked him what he thinks went wrong, he would probably blame Elizabeth for trying to control him.

Elizabeth recognizes that the problem exists but is minimizing the seriousness of the problem. She’s looking for a solution that can be implemented within four months so that they can go ahead and get married. She probably knows how unrealistic this is but doesn’t want to face the disgrace of admitting to friends and family that she has made a mistake.

Read the rest here!

follow BettyConfidential on... Pinterest

Read More About...
Related Articles...

3 thoughts on “Getting Married: "Should I Cancel This Wedding?”

  1. She is getting married for the benefits of the natural needs of the humans. It is the part of the social and moral segments of the human life. It is increased and elevated for the increased and magnified objectives. The sequences of the satisfaction are ensured and imposed for betterment and progress.

Leave a Reply

top of page jump to top