Guys Have Feelings, Too
They’re more vulnerable to ups and downs of romance.
Although we often think of young guys as being careless or unromantic about relationships, a new study has found that in fact they feel more unsettled by rocky romances than women are.
Robin Simon, a co-author of the study and a sociology professor at Wake Forest University in Winston-Salem, N.C., analyzed responses by 1,611 men and women aged 18-23 to questions about whether being in a relationship, or going through a breakup, had affected their mental health. The researchers also analyzed whether a partner’s strain and support had any effect on the respondents.
They found that men, when compared with women, got more emotional benefits from the positive parts of a romantic relationships—and were likelier to suffer negative effects during a tough stretch in a partnership.
As Simon explained, “The perception is that young men are unfeeling when it comes to relationships, and that all they want is to have sex. But these findings reveal that they are emotionally involved, and that they actually benefit more from the good parts of the relationship and are more harmed by the bad than women.”
Simon added that guys’ increased vulnerability might be because they have fewer intimate, supportive relationships than women. And because of their age group, they’ve probably grown up in families where both parents worked outside the home. That upbringing accustomed the men, experts said, to see marriage as an emotionally fulfilling partnership. (Business Week)
Jane Farrell is a senior editor at BettyConfidential.